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Do you think it's a personal responsibility for a parent to pay for all of their child/ren's college?

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Asked by LaurenKaye29 at 12:26 AM on Dec. 25, 2009 in Just for Fun

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  • Nope! I think that the child should also pay for it, or contribute in some way or another. There is no free ride and the sooner they realize that the better.

    Answer by TheDiva320 at 12:28 AM on Dec. 25, 2009

  • No; children need to grow up sooner or later. Paying for things they need is a part of life.

    Answer by heartfrommyson at 12:31 AM on Dec. 25, 2009

  • I DO think it's the parent's responsibility IF the parents are able to. It has become increasingly difficult to survive in the world without a higher education. In the far distant past, one was guaranteed to obtain a high paying job because of his/her education. The standard used to be MINIMUM high school diploma, but we have "graduated" to a society where a Bachelor's Degree is absolutely the minimum now. There are persons with law degrees driving taxi cabs for a living. There are persons with Master's degrees working as cocktail waitresses. It's a tough, cruel world out there and we, as parents, should do all we can to provide the tools for our children to successfully venture through it!

    JUST my opinion! :)

    Answer by TLALONDE16 at 12:37 AM on Dec. 25, 2009

  • If you can do it, why not? They are going to have bills coming in for the rest of their lives (and likely already do - car payments, car insurance, cell phones, etc.) so why not pay for their college and let them have one less thing to worry about for now. If you can't do it all, then that's a different story. Do as much as you can and feel good about it; if your son/daughter wants to go to college he/she will make up for what's left.

    Answer by MommyToSmeech at 12:39 AM on Dec. 25, 2009

  • Well I am paying for my kids at the toon of $50,000. for the first one the second one will be starting next fall at the price of $45,000. Then the following year another one. Sheesh a family could go bankrupt at this rate.
    Lucky for us we only have three. Thankfully we will start to get a break for the second one and the third one being in college at the same time. We decided long ago to save for college and put money in the stock market with the recent problems we lost over $500,000 so instead of taking it out and hurting our prospects of making the money back we are paying the college out of our daily expenses. IT hurts. But hey we can do it. True to form our kids will have summer jobs in school and have to raise all living expenses.

    Answer by mmmegan38 at 12:47 AM on Dec. 25, 2009

  • Nope. Adults are responsible for themselves. Once someone is over 18 their future is in their hands. My older 2 sons have both gone to college and thanks to great grades and sports they rec'd grants and scholarships that paid for all of their college tutition, books, room & board. My younger 2 are college bound next year, both have already been accepted to their 1st colleges of choice and both will have all of their tuition, room, board and books paid for thanks to scholarships and grants. All 4 worked their butts off for great grades & played sports so that they could secure what they needed for college. They all also worked to save money from the time they could start mowing lawns when they each turned 12 to pay for their own car insurance & misc. bills/expenses for all of their years in college so that they didn't/won't have to work while in school. No loans for any of them & we didn't/won't pay a dime.

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:07 AM on Dec. 25, 2009

  • No. They should pay their own way. They're more likely to do their work and keep their grades up if it's their own money, rather than their parents money, that is paying their way through college. AND if they do choose to slack off, then it's their money, so it's their stupid decision to do so.

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:32 AM on Dec. 25, 2009

  • My DH and I feel it is our "responsibility" to pay for our childs college. Responsibility makes it sound bad though. We WANT to pay for our child's college. And we think it is kind of weird if other parents don't want to. Not being able to is a totally different situation. But really, we could care less if others want to do it for their kids. We want to, we feel we should, and we will.

    Answer by VanessaV at 1:34 AM on Dec. 25, 2009

  • We will pay as long as they pay too. If we had oodles of money, then sure, why not!?! But we don't, so no, we will not pay for their full tuition.


    Answer by banana-bear at 1:37 AM on Dec. 25, 2009

  • Nope. It grows character to pay your own way.

    Answer by Whatkids at 1:38 AM on Dec. 25, 2009

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