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How can I get my teenager (18) to be pro-active?

as opposed to re-active????


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Asked by JennaCooksToWin at 7:18 PM on Dec. 26, 2009 in Adult Children (18+)

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  • She's an adult now. Allow her to be the way she wants to be. If you really wanted to mold her into a mini-you, it should have been done all along from a young age. Do you really want a clone of yourself? Diversity is what makes the world an interesting place. Just love her for who she is and let her make her own choices

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:28 PM on Dec. 26, 2009

  • If they're in high school and disrespect is the reason then cut back on privileges and enforce community service. If the teen is in hs and already respectful but just not into community or church like you want then lighten up. If teen is out of highschool and under your roof I do (I have a 17yo in hs and a now adult son I did this too while in college) I tighten now and tightened then privileges cause of disrespect.

    Answer by lfl at 7:30 PM on Dec. 26, 2009

  • "How can I get my teenager (18) to be pro-active?"

    Wish upon a falling star? lol..j/k. There is no way you can MAKE your daughter want to do something with her life...SHE has to want to make a change.


    Answer by AvasMommy810 at 7:36 PM on Dec. 26, 2009

  • What's with the link that has nothing to do with the post?

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:38 PM on Dec. 26, 2009

  • yes i realize the link and post are mutally different howevere did chance my signauture pre-determined line good catch though!!!!! and Thanks iadvance J


    Answer by JennaCooksToWin at 7:59 PM on Dec. 26, 2009

  • Don't you think you should have thought about that long before now?

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:38 PM on Dec. 26, 2009

  • Maybe she has thought about it long before now, maybe she, like me has talked to and worked with and done just about everything they know to do to get their child back on track. I know our daughter was right on track until she graduated, then all of a sudden she just went limp. Decided she really doesn't know what she wants to do and has just glided through since doing only what she absolutely has to do.

    So ya, I guess I need the answer to that question too!! After everything, the lectures, talks, threats, her actually moving out for 2 days, she still has no motivation, so guess now it's our turn to give her and ultimatum and really make sure she understands, this time it won't just be 2 days!

    Answer by Michellek89 at 9:59 AM on Jan. 15, 2010

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