WASHINGTON – Denise Anderson lost her only son in the Iraq war. She's determined not to lose her fight to be buried with him in a national veterans cemetery.
Army Spc. Corey Shea died Nov. 12, 2008, in Mosul, with one about a month left on his tour of duty in Iraq. He was buried at the Massachusetts National Cemetery in Bourne, about 50 miles from his hometown of Mansfield, Mass.
A grieving Anderson, 42, soon hit an obstacle in her quest to be buried in the same plot with her son. That chance is offered only to the spouses or children of dead veterans; Corey Shea was 21, single and childless.
I honestly dont feel it is her right or place to be. If they let her then later how many children and wives wont get to because the dead veterans mom took it?
Answer by MunchMunch at 9:49 AM on Dec. 29, 2009
Answer by Mrs.Owen86 at 9:54 PM on Dec. 28, 2009
If she wanted to be buried with her son, couldn't she have had HIM buried elsewhere?
Answer by sweet-a-kins at 9:55 PM on Dec. 28, 2009
Answer by Pnukey at 9:59 PM on Dec. 28, 2009
Yes, sweet, she could have. I think it would have cost her money for the plots (his and hers). I can't exactly remember how it went when DH's father passed away but he could have had a military ceremony and have it cost almost nothing, but his wife of 2 years decided that she wanted him buried in a particular cemetery regardless of his last wishes. I think the military had someone come out and play Taps on the horn, but that's the extent of what the military did for him since his wife had changed the final plans.
I wasn't involved in the final plans at all so I don't know the details, but yes, I believe she could have had him buried elsewhere.
Answer by QuinnMae at 10:02 PM on Dec. 28, 2009
Why not bury him elsewhere? Then she could call all the shots and make all the plans herself-
Answer by Sisteract at 10:04 PM on Dec. 28, 2009
Quinn that is awful! Why would she go against his LAST wishes!! That is just terrible!!
Answer by sweet-a-kins at 10:08 PM on Dec. 28, 2009
Well, it's a strange story and I won't go into the details, but to make it short, she was Catholic and didn't believe in cremation. He was in the Navy and wanted to be cremated and scattered at sea. His kids were willing to pay for cremation because it was what he wanted and they knew that his wife wasn't made of money like she let everyone to believe. Their father was on a vent for over a year before he passed and she refused to let the Dr.'s and the nurses tell any of the kids about his condition (keep in mind the kids are all 40ish) because she thought they were trying to kill him. I think she had delusions, I really don't know. She was a little off, that the best way I can describe her. Nice, just a little off. But when it came down to final arrangements, it was all about her and nothing about him. It was really sad that she wouldn't honor his final requests.
Answer by QuinnMae at 10:16 PM on Dec. 28, 2009
Answer by QuinnMae at 10:17 PM on Dec. 28, 2009
Answer by sailorwifenmom at 10:19 PM on Dec. 28, 2009
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