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what were your doubts

when u were engaged, getting married, or after you wed?

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Asked by Anonymous at 12:47 PM on Dec. 29, 2009 in Relationships

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  • I had two doubts before marriage while engaged. And tons afterwards. What I thought was reluctance to talk being a guy with roomates who were his brother and best friend before marriage wasn't that. Turned out his talk was only of himself because of ego.

    If he's not so nice before marriage he'll be like that afterwards. If he's nice before marriage it will turn sour on and off.

    Be sure to firmly very firmly include him in wedding plans or if you're already married then include him firmly in every day things.

    Letting him get away with crap early on leads to a lifetime of a relationship with such a person being alone yourself. I strongly advise that any bad upsets be addressed in counselling including telling him he's wanted very much as a partner but absolutely needed being disrespectful, nope not at all. Be honest early as to what a respectful relationship is to you and following thru. 29 yrs later I've learned.

    Answer by lfl at 12:53 PM on Dec. 29, 2009

  • I had a million with my first marriage. Ended HORRIBLY.

    With my 2nd, none. He is perfect. Even when he drives me nuts he is perfect. I knew when I met him I could always trust him to tell me the truth and do the right thing without having to ask.

    It's a lot easier to change a wedding date than get a divorce.

    Answer by ecodani at 12:56 PM on Dec. 29, 2009

  • I didn't have any doubts before I was married. Looking back now, we should have waited a few years before we actually did get married. We were too young. I do believe we still would have gotten married, but we needed to mature a bit first. I think it would have saved a lot of heart ache within our marriage. NOW, however, it is on track... unconditional love and respect are the underscore of our marriage.

    Answer by RutterMama at 1:45 PM on Dec. 29, 2009

  • When we got married I didn't think I'd be able to take his parents' dogmatism and negativity. Now I just tune out his parents or stand up to them when they say something rude or ignorant.

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:56 PM on Dec. 29, 2009

  • I didn't have any doubts when I married my dh - if I'd had them, I wouldn't have done it. By the time we were engaged, I knew him very well and knew it would work.

    Answer by missanc at 3:22 PM on Dec. 29, 2009

  • I never had any doubts when I got married. I was young and dove head first into it. We celebrated our 18th anniversary Monday. There are a couple of things I should have paid closer attention to, but nothing earth shattering...


    Answer by Austinsmom35 at 1:04 AM on Dec. 30, 2009

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