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spoiled baby

my son is almost 8 mos and is very spoiled. he wants me to hold him all the time and when he is on the floor playing i cant leave the room or even walk by him without him wanting me to pick him up. any suggestions on how to get him from being so spoiled?

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Asked by Anonymous at 6:12 PM on Dec. 29, 2009 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • stop doing everything he wants? if he crys let him cry it wont hurt him and you not picking him up wont hurt him i know it's hard to listen to your baby cry but you have to break him of this before he's 2 and then it'll take years till he breaks himself of it

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:18 PM on Dec. 29, 2009

  • That's not being spoiled. That's wanting to feel safe and secure. Separation anxiety is strong in children his age. He'll stop when he feels safe that you won't leave him.

    Answer by admckenzie at 6:18 PM on Dec. 29, 2009

  • I had the same problem with my 2 year old when he was that little. The best thing to do i guess is if you gotta walk out of the room and do something else for a second just do it even though hes mad and crying, if he follows you, just tell him you love him and you'll pick him up in a second. I know he may not understand completly but it may make you feel better about not picking him up. Just start getting into the habit of not picking him up all the time and maybe he'll soon realize that even when he cries you aren't going to pick him up...good luck, i know how frustrating it can be! :)

    Answer by sexy_can_i at 6:18 PM on Dec. 29, 2009

  • and the person that wrote Anonymous is wrong. It doesn't always get worse when they're older. I think it gets easier bc once their two they understand A LOT more of what your saying. and i think its a lot easier to destract them.

    Answer by sexy_can_i at 6:20 PM on Dec. 29, 2009

  • CIO is abuse. it is neglect. it is impossible to "spoil" a baby by holding them... you signed up for this, babies take time, they need attention almost constantly, they need to be held and loved.

    i can not believe someone would call an 8 month old baby, spoiled *shakes head*.

    Answer by ObbyDobbie at 6:21 PM on Dec. 29, 2009

  • He is not spoiled. He is a baby. There is a difference. You can't spoil a baby. Get a sling or other carrier, and wear your baby; keep your baby feeling secure and loved. The day will come when you are at the mall and your baby says: Mom, pretend that you don't know me"

    Answer by rkoloms at 6:33 PM on Dec. 29, 2009

  • The first thing to do is find out the reason WHY he wants to be held so much. Is it out of a need to be held and be close or is it out of boredom & needing something different. When he wants to be picked up/held, do it but sit on the floor holding him. If he is content there with you then he needs to be held & loved on and you can meet that need. As other posters have said, babies need that contact. If however, when you sit down in boring place he either fusses or goes off to do something else then the odds are great that he is just bored and wanted to do something different. Those times, give him something different to play with, a new toy, some pots and pans to bang... anything different and he will probably be content. He's not spoiled, he just knows what he needs.

    Answer by Krysden at 6:55 PM on Dec. 29, 2009

  • Call it what you want ladies but she shouldn't have to pick him up & hold him all day. I agree that he wants to feel secure & wants his mommy AND yes at this age he might be feeling a little seperation anxiety BUT you as his mother have to show him that its OK to be alone for a second. He won't know its OK until you let him see. He'll realize he's fine and gain a little independence and pride for himself which is great. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with this. And there is nothing wrong with holding your child all day but to be honest what would be easier? I'm sure most would agree on being able to put there child down w/o tantrums. Just talk to him, although he doesn't understand, in a reassuring tone that everything is fine and you'll be back. Then when you do come back don't pick him up quiet yet, instead rub his back and smile in a cheerful tone and act like everything is fine. Good luck!

    Answer by ProudMammaMia at 6:55 PM on Dec. 29, 2009

  • Oh yeah here's a real life example: so my BFF's son is turning 2 in jan but he is developmentally behind. He's taking physical therapy and speech as well. It is all because they always carried there sone everywhere. So he didn't need to use his feet or motor skills to figure stuff out as much. He just needed to point and they would get stuff for him, so he didn't need to talk. Now he is behind and its because he was carried way too much. He is having a hard time wanting to do it himself now because he never really had to. Just something to think about...

    Answer by ProudMammaMia at 7:07 PM on Dec. 29, 2009

  • proudmommamia- holding a child is one thing, doing EVERYTHING for them when they need to learn is another. i have to disagree with you, and say that there is NOTHING to think about. lazy parents will generally have children that are "behind" (which is a term i use very loosely).
    ALL of my babies crawled & walked early, and they were all worn most of the day in either a wrap or a sling. none of them have developmental delays, or lack initiative to do things on their own. neither do any of the other babies in the family that have been worn, in fact, the only ones that do are the ones who were left to cry constantly. out of 19 grandchildren only 5 have been left to fend for their selves... THEY are the ones with behavioral problems, learning disabilities, and social disorders.

    holding a baby does not mean you simply forget they exist and teach them nothing- IMO, that is what parents who use walkers and bouncy seats do.

    Answer by ObbyDobbie at 7:36 PM on Dec. 29, 2009

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