I think dh is falling out of love with me because when we met (a year and a half ago) I was a single mom who was motivated to no end... Well now we have a 4 month old together and I've been a sahm for the last year (I quit my job to move to his town) I have slowly gotten less and less motivated to do anything. I told him I was going to get a job after the holidays (although to me that's after the new year) and today he came home to me on the couch and make the remark "that's sure getting a job" plus he's talking to a girl he knows I hate. I'm worried I'm going to loose him if I don't get more motivated but truth be told I just can't give myself that swift kick in the but I really want/need. So what motivates you?Answer Question
Answer by mommymeg03 at 6:31 PM on Dec. 29, 2009
Answer by admckenzie at 6:36 PM on Dec. 29, 2009
Answer by mom06and09 at 6:37 PM on Dec. 29, 2009
Answer by mommymeg03 at 6:38 PM on Dec. 29, 2009
Answer by Hali_Taylor at 6:44 PM on Dec. 29, 2009
Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 6:45 PM on Dec. 29, 2009
Sounds like you've lost yourself. You moved to be with him. Do you have friends around you? Family visit often? I know how you feel. I left my home town to be with my s/o and I felt very very lonely for two years. Get out and find some friends whether it's at a play group or go to the mall. You really need to take time for yourself and get back what it is that you feel like you lost.
Answer by legalmommy101 at 6:46 PM on Dec. 29, 2009
Answer by mom06and09 at 7:01 PM on Dec. 29, 2009
You need to get out. If you can call family or friends to babysit, then post an ad in your community. Start a babysitting co-op. That means you babysit other kids sometimes and they baby sit yours sometimes. I wouldn't tolerate dh talking to another woman period. I'd tell him to cut that shit off or he's going to be cut out of the picture plain and simple. What is important right now is that you get out and take care of yourself. You're a mommy but you are also more than a mommy. This won't happen over night but if you take the steps, it will happen. There has got to be someone in your area here on cafemom that would love to start a babysitting co-op with you. Maybe ask if anyone is in your area in questions or in a group.
Answer by legalmommy101 at 7:10 PM on Dec. 29, 2009
Answer by LindaClement at 7:49 PM on Dec. 29, 2009