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Older next door neighbor is being REALLY friendly lately...what are his intentions??

I am a 36 year old, relatively attractive single mom with an 18 month old. My neighbor is in his 60's, and is a nice man. He bought me a turkey for Christmas, which was very nice of him.

Well, today, while I was on the phone with my baby's father, he knocked on my door and asked me and my daughter out for dinner. I said yes, even though I don't really want to go.

I'm not sure what his intentions are. Is he just a lonely old man looking for friendship? Or is he hot for my bod?

What do YOU think? I don't want to lead him on or anything, on the other hand I don't want to hurt his feelings. I just don't know what to do!!! :-(

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 11:46 PM on Dec. 30, 2009 in Relationships

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Answers (13)
  • I"d be careful, especially since he's a neighbor and you have to live near him. I agree with the poster who said to pay for your own meal, and make sure he realizes that you are there for a meal with a FRIEND. I had a similar situation when I was young. I think it's important to keep your feelers up and trust your gut. The older man I knew was my neighbor's dad who lived with them. I just thought of him as a nice older man. I was only 23, my father was barely 40, and this man was in his 60's. It never occurred to me that he thought of me in any way other than a grandfatherly way. Unfortunately, he made a very inappropriate request, I was embarrassed, and insulted, and finally had to tell his son to keep him away. It was a very uncomfortable situation. Good Luck, and again, trust your instincts.
    ohwrite

    Answer by ohwrite at 12:26 AM on Dec. 31, 2009

  • Um, I think you already know. Mama may have a sugar daddy in the making,
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:48 PM on Dec. 30, 2009

  • sugardaddy all the way lol
    firstimemomm603

    Answer by firstimemomm603 at 11:50 PM on Dec. 30, 2009

  • He could just be lonely and figures since you're a single parent that you could use all the help you can get. Was very nice of him to do the turkey and dinner thing.
    I'd mention to him that you're not interested in a relationship and put it straight out on the table that you don't want to take advantage of his kindness under false illusions.
    It's likely he's just lonely tho and didn't want to eat alone. If I went, I'd pay for my own food to make sure he understands that it's NOT a date.
    lisa_ann_p

    Answer by lisa_ann_p at 11:52 PM on Dec. 30, 2009

  • My husband calls me "Worst Case Scenario Girl" because I always expect the worst so here's my take....
    Child predators target single mothers. They are super nice and really make an effort to get to know mother and child(ren). Then they offer to help out...take child(ren) for ice cream so Mom can have a break or maybe be there when an emergency of some sort requires Mom to need a sitter in a pinch.

    I know I sound like an alarmist but if it keeps your little one safe, I don't mind being bashed in here for saying it. Just be careful and watch for clues like these. He may be a nice older man but nice older men don't want to hang out with little kids.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:00 AM on Dec. 31, 2009

  • Since you don't know what his intentions are, make sure he knows what your intentions are. That way no one gets their feelings hurt. You know what they say about snow on the roof.
    crazycatlady66

    Answer by crazycatlady66 at 12:04 AM on Dec. 31, 2009

  • I kinda agree with you Anon... it's always best to watch for clues, regardless of age, or gender. Not too long ago, a lady in the DFW area had several movies full of doing things to little bitty babies and small children she was babysitting.
    Not all old men are pervs, not all young men are lying cheating low down dirty rotten jerks either....
    I stand by original opinion, he may be lonely, may just not like eating alone and may have thought when he bought you the turkey you might invite him over to eat with you thinking maybe since he didn't see a husband or boyfriend around (I'm only assuming since you agreed to go eat with him) that he might've found someone to share some meals with and even old men, the same as old women enjoy young children (in a non sexual way). The innocense of a child makes us remember when our babies were little, when we were little, and they are constantly bringing a smile or a laugh :)
    lisa_ann_p

    Answer by lisa_ann_p at 12:09 AM on Dec. 31, 2009

  • I agree with anon as well.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:18 AM on Dec. 31, 2009

  • Old people wanna do it too! He's hot for you sugah
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:37 AM on Dec. 31, 2009

  • I would be very suspicious and I would not want to be going out with a man I barely know. You may be putting both yourself and your baby at risk. You don't have to be rude, but you can just tell him that you prefer to not be going out with him.
    NannyB.

    Answer by NannyB. at 7:05 AM on Dec. 31, 2009

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