My friend and I had our daughters 2 weeks apart. Her daughter went full term and was born 2 weeks before Gwen came into the world. Gwen on the other hand was a high risk pregnancy (She was a twin but the twin didn't make it) and was brought (Via surgery C section..completely put me under) into the world a month early. My friends daughter is thriving and crawling and just getting into everything and seems to be hitting all the milestones on time. Gwen isn't. It doesn't bother me and I don't even compare them to each other because I know there were different circumstances in place for each baby. My problem is I can't get my family or my husbands family to quit comparing them. I can't get them to stop talking so down on Gwen cause she isn't as developed as they would like her to be. They aren't trying to be mean but it gets discouraging to hear.."She can't crawl yet? She can't sit by herself yet? She can't do this or this yet"Answer Question
Answer by Faeriebrat at 11:53 PM on Dec. 30, 2009
Politely tell them to kiss your a$$. All babies regardless of how they were born develop differently. My sil and I had babies about 6 weeks apart and her baby is crawling and getting into everything while mine sits. To be honest, after dealing with my first baby walking at 6 months, I'm perfectly happy that my baby just sits.
Answer by legalmommy101 at 11:55 PM on Dec. 30, 2009
Answer by mom2BOYZnDad at 11:57 PM on Dec. 30, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 12:06 AM on Dec. 31, 2009
Answer by Faeriebrat at 12:07 AM on Dec. 31, 2009
Answer by ASHDREWMAMA at 12:09 AM on Dec. 31, 2009
What this is all stemming from is your insecurities in yourself as a parent. You need to stop leaving room for other's to doubt you and doubt your abilities as a parent. What you are feeling is normal. When you have your first child you can't wait till they hit all these milestones but then you look back and realize how much you miss what they were like before they hit those milestones. Sit back and enjoy that beautiful baby girl. If anyone starts comparing, either tell them off or tune them out. Say, I'm just so glad that i'm getting to spend this much time with her watching her (lay, sit etc) because she's going to be walking for the rest of her life. :)
Answer by legalmommy101 at 12:17 AM on Dec. 31, 2009
Answer by Faeriebrat at 12:31 AM on Dec. 31, 2009
Don't worry about the actions of others for long term, just think about the here and now. You are a first time parent, some of your feelings may be right on and you may be a little sensitive because you feel a tad insecure. It's all normal. Babies don't come with instruction manuals and families tend to chill out after a few years of the kid being around. Right now she's still fresh so everyone want to put their two cents in and tell you what to to. Everyone goes through it.
Answer by legalmommy101 at 12:38 AM on Dec. 31, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 10:33 AM on Dec. 31, 2009