Today I called child support services to ask the status of my case and I had a phone interview with one of the workers on the spot and what he said really got me heated. He asked, "Is the father currently seeing his child?" I said no, I don't allow it. He asked me why not. I went down the list: he's been in and out of jail since I got pregnant, he is an alcoholic, FOUR MONTHS AGO WE GOT IN A CAR ACCIDENT BECAUSE HE WAS DRIVING UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF NARCOTICS, he steals money from me....and on and on.
After explaining that to him I asked, "Besides, he hasn't given me a dime since she was born. He can't see her until he starts paying child support, right?"
He told me, "No ma'm. We don't advocate keeping a child from their father. What you're doing is like holding the child hostage in exchange for ransom"
ummm...excuse me? Has anyone heard of this? Does he legally have any right to see her if he isn't paying?
Asked by Anonymous at 3:02 AM on Dec. 31, 2009 in Babies (0-12 months)
Answer by Anonymous at 3:05 AM on Dec. 31, 2009
Child support and visitation are two separate issues under many state laws. If I were you, I'd write his a$$ off and list the father as unknown. Get help through the state instead of having that kind of man in your child's life. If he doesn't want anything to do with your child, call the child support place back and say there's been a misunderstanding and he's not the father after all.
Answer by legalmommy101 at 3:11 AM on Dec. 31, 2009
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Answer by Ewadun at 5:46 AM on Dec. 31, 2009
I doubt there are many family court judges who would deny a parent visitation based ONLY on whether or not he/she was current with their child support payments. Now the laundry list of other reasons you mentioned would be far more than enough for me to limit the time and or places he would see that child. Never without supervision. Never in any situation where he would be driving with the child in the car. Personally I think not paying child support (ordered or not) makes any parent lower than whale shit, and there is no excuse for it. If you can't pay all of it, you can go without food to make sure your child has it! You can go without anything to make sure your child has what is needed. But that's just my opinion and I come by it from personal experience. Good luck! Hope he gets his act together or something changes for the better!
Answer by SimplyLaine at 7:10 AM on Dec. 31, 2009
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