So he comes so late after the kids cried----he bought them home again and they were so happy---he is getting married and she (who the kids have never met)want them to spend the night at their apartment----I don't know her, I do not trust his judgement, his last girlfriend has moldy animal feces on her carpet and had no running water---- NOW I AM THE BIG BAD MOMMY THAT SAYS NO ALL THE TIME...THE THING IS WE LIVE IN THE SAME TOWN AND HE DIDN'T SEE THEM SINCE OCTOBER---TILL LAST NIGHT----HE HAS NEVER TOOK THEM OVERNIGHT BEFORE WHY START NOW???? IF HE THINKS WE ARE GOING TO START SHARING CUSTODY THIS LATE IN THE GAME FORGET IT!!! THE KIDS ARE 9 AND 6 YEARS OLD---
WHAT DO I SAY TO HIM???
Answer by kimigogo at 3:52 PM on Dec. 31, 2009
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Answer by blue_glass_mama at 9:53 PM on Dec. 31, 2009
It really sounds like he is trying to use the kids to impress his new GF. I would tell him if he wants overnights he needs to be consistent in showing up on time regularly and being responsible while he has the kids. Tell the kids that for right now you don't think it is a good idea for them to spend the night, but MAYBE you will change your mind in the future. My sons exfather (singed off when DS was 13 yo) was horrible at putting DS first and several times I had to be the "bad guy" and say no and that sometimes mommies have to make decisions that kids don't like but it's because we know what is best for them. I would also try to sort of make up for it by doing something out of the ordinary with him.
Answer by goaliemom93 at 12:04 AM on Jan. 1, 2010
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