I would go by the "my house" my rules policy. That said, my son goes with to my friends place. She has a few rules that are different in her house than I do in mine. He knows there are differences and he listens to them. On the other hand, if he is not allowed to say, jump on the couch, then he doesn't get to in either house. What I think you might consider is sit down with his Dad and find out what he thinks you should do. You don't want to step over the line then feel like you are walking on eggshells either. So maybe you need to have a group adult conversation. All adults come to a common agreement. If your stepson is testing you, you can't give in, or you'll never be able to trust that he will listen when your back is turned either.
at 3:33 PM on Jun. 25, 2008