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child going to big school this year!

my 5 year old stepson is starting kindergarden this year! me and my husband (his dad) are so excited for him. he seems to be ok with it but i know him and i know he is going to freak out when he gets there. what can we do to help me out when that happens and should we go wiht his mother to drop him off on the first day or should we take him by ourselfs like the second day or even pick him up on the frist day. help if any one has gone through this.


Asked by shannonsmom555 at 10:30 AM on Jan. 1, 2010 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • You need to make school sound soooooooo exciting and fun to ease the anxiety, also i think that going with to drop him off is a great idea it shows him and the school that the 3 of you are a united front in his life. That in itself will help his issues as well.

    Answer by truealaskanmom at 10:33 AM on Jan. 1, 2010

  • Like the previous poster said, talk it up a lot. You have several months to do that. Does he have any friends that he will be going to school with? If not, I'd try to find a local group that does playdates and such. Having a friend to start school with is always good.

    As for the dropping off and picking up, if you and your dh have a good relationship with the ex then talk with her about what she wants to do. If everyone gets along, dropping off together would be really good. Otherwise, arranging to pick him up his first day could be the next best thing.
    Cafe Jenn

    Answer by Cafe Jenn at 12:37 PM on Jan. 1, 2010

  • talk it up and you can even go visit the school. drive by then in the summer or right b/f the end of school or beg. of the school year (or whenever it is done in your area) he/she can go to kinder transition.... go see the school, maybe meet the teacher, see the classrooms etc. even if your school doesn't do it you can request it.

    Answer by MamiJaAyla at 12:12 PM on Jan. 2, 2010

  • - Talk it up
    - Get him new items and emphasize how he is going to get to use them when school starts (i.e. school shopping - new shoes, new underwear with characters that he picks out, a new shirt he picks out - with your approval - to wear that first day, and of course, the backpack) Start a countdown about a couple weeks before remind him (in two weeks when school starts you'll get to wear your ______ underwear, and your new use, and use your cool new _________ backpack)
    - Take him to the school in mid-July, stop at the office and tell them you have an incoming K student and would like to show him around (show him the library, the cafeteria, if he'll be eating lunch at school, and the kindergarten wing) so he gets a feel for the place (Most schools will allow this.)

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:46 PM on Jan. 2, 2010

  • - Take him BACK to the school and do the same tour you did before, the last week or two before school actually starts. The rooms should be decorated by then and you may even know his room and teacher, so you can point out all the cool stuff they have in the room and show him the stuff he'll use.
    - During the summer give him a few opportunities to be in a "school-like setting" where he has to sit in a "class" on the floor with a bunch of kids and/or you have to leave him alone for an hour or two. Libraries have storytimes where kids his age go into a room for a story without the parent (parent is closeby but not actually there), they also have group activities during the summer where they can sit on the floor with other kids to watch a performance or learn some fun things.

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:50 PM on Jan. 2, 2010

  • (contd again)

    A Vacation Bible School is also helpful if you don't mind Christian things to get somewhat of a school feeling. These last for 2-3 hours for a week during the summer and typically parents leave. For the first few days, STAY and let him know you are close by, and stay away from the kids area, but be there in case he "freaks out" and needs to see you again. Chances are by day 3 or so he'll be having too much fun to miss you. Various churches offer these througout the summer, and going to two or three of them may be a good test run for him to be away from his parents for a few hours. If he does this, chances are by the time school starts it won't even be an issue.

    Good luck!

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:52 PM on Jan. 2, 2010