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my grandson is austic age 13, he is spiting an blowing in peoples faces, how can i correct this behavior

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Asked by every1butme at 3:52 PM on Jan. 1, 2010 in Teens (13-17)

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  • Poor you what a situation, i wouldnt know what to suggest, even for a child who didnt have this, do you not have any help and advice from a Doctor or a helpline dealing with autism

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:11 PM on Jan. 1, 2010

  • Are you his primary caregiver? If not, it will be difficult, if not impossible, for you to extinguish this behavior. To extinguish & then replace an undesireable behavior takes patience, time, consistency and firm resolve on the part of the caregiver, especially when it is a teen you are working with and not a young child. If this is a new behavior, you should first start w/trying to figure out the root cause - what changed around the time he started? If nothing changed, then you need to look at when he is engaging in the behavior & see what he's getting from it (attention, distraction, avoidance, etc.). Knowing what he's getting out of the behavior should give you an idea of what would be an appropriate replacement behavior & of how to go about distinguishing the inappropriate behavior. Never try to get rid of a behavior w/o having a replacement behavior to teach; otherwise the child will find a new behavior on his own. cont.

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:13 PM on Jan. 1, 2010

  • To extinguish the inappropriate behavior, you must act immediately every time he engages in it and I do mean immediately, by first getting his attention, telling him about the behavior (but don't call him bad, etc.), then offering the replacement behavior. For example...."John", spitting/blowing in someone's face is not how we tell people they are too close (or tell them we're angry or whatever the reason he does it). John, people don't like to be spit on or have others blow in their faces. If you don't want that person near you, step back from them & use your words. Tell people, " I don't like people close" (or whatever you are using as a replacement behavior). Do this over and over and over and over, until he gets it. If he's nonverbal, then you'll need to program his Dynavox (or other augmentative communication device) with the appropriate words & teach him how & when to use it appropriately.

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:20 PM on Jan. 1, 2010

  • Applied Behavior Analysis

    Answer by campeno at 12:33 AM on Jan. 2, 2010

  • When my 4 year old Autistic son does those things, we redirect him. We are constantly on watch, so we can sometimes tell when he's about to do it. But after he does it, we simply say no firmly and turn away from him. Negative re-enforcements work as well as positive ones. He can't stand it when no one will talk to him, so we use that. When that doesn't work, we send him out of the room, and remind him that he cannot do that stuff. I don't know if it will ever stop, but we have seen a great decrease.

    Answer by NightPhoenix at 1:20 PM on Jan. 2, 2010

  • What works for dogs works for kids. Find Victoria Stillwell's show "It's Me or the Dog" on Animal Planet. There is no reason why this behavior needs to be tolerated just because the boy has been diagnosed with Autism. Watch how she makes an ugly noise, turns her back on the dogs, praises positive behavior, etc.  It is the same thing!


    Answer by Anonymous at 8:03 AM on Jan. 4, 2010

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