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dont know what else i could do

the baby has been home for almost 2 months and her 3 year sister still hits her and all that and we tryt to stop her but she doesnt listen to us

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Asked by williamswife522 at 5:27 PM on Jan. 3, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • keep them seperated , till babes a bit older then she'll have to battle it out, also involve the older one more make her feel like she has a special role

    Answer by mirit.rose at 5:30 PM on Jan. 3, 2010

  • Well, you can wear your baby in a sling which will give the 3 year old less access to her. Your 3 year old could seriously injury your baby, so wearing your baby will be best way to prevent that.

    Answer by BridgetC140 at 5:34 PM on Jan. 3, 2010

  • we put then down in different rooms but when we go downstairs she goes to her room and wakes her up and then will pull everything she can reach and the baby sleeps with us and she is in her own bed she will come over and try to push the baby over to sleep with us

    Answer by williamswife522 at 5:39 PM on Jan. 3, 2010

  • Each and every time big sissy goes to baby tell her firmly and loudly no ONLY WITH MOMMY/DADDY and ALSO tell her ONLY LOOK WITH EYES NO TOUCH.

    There are plastic covers with screen side slots for outside stroller warmth plus there are mesh nets to cover stroller or baby carriage with to keep bugs off. You could probably cover baby's sleeping in it. I would not under any circumstances leave baby alone anywhere at all not even when sleeping. Cover baby's stroller with either one of those covers and keep baby in that for naps with you taking from room to room.

    Also, can someone watch baby so you can take big sister to Barnes andNobles (if you have one) or Public Libraries' FREE kids' times? They do arts and crafts in both of those places and are free.

    At 3yo yr daughter is really old enough and brain developed well enough to not hurt baby upon hearing that from you.

    But she's extremely far too jealous.

    Answer by lfl at 5:50 PM on Jan. 3, 2010

  • It's very natural for big sister/brother to be territorial. Try to get her more involved in taking care of the baby. When she is nice to the baby, whether it's handing her a blanket or a toy, praise the older sibling. Let her know that her help was greatly appriciated. Try and have the baby near by when you're playing with the older sibling. Sit on the floor with the newborn in her bouncer just slightly behind you (so you can barricade yourself between toddler and baby) and play with the toddler. Having fun with the toddler when baby is around might help her see that baby isn't so bad. Try to associate as many positive things to baby as you can, so the toddler sees that it's okay that baby stays. Reinforce punishments when she is violent or aggressive towards baby definately, but if you put too many negative associations with baby the toddler will never like the new baby. So try and praise her when she's nice and so on.

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 5:50 PM on Jan. 3, 2010

  • I agree with Jazz...she needs to be taught exactly how to tread the baby. She needs to see you do it for her...maybe get her a special baby that she can practice with.

    She also however, needs to be disciplined when she does try to hurt baby. A time out and a stern voice telling her no and why.

    But until then, I would try wearing the baby...and doing your best to keep them separate.

    Answer by mom2twobabes at 6:36 PM on Jan. 3, 2010

  • i sometime just want to lock her in a room tell the baby is like 4 years

    Answer by williamswife522 at 6:51 PM on Jan. 3, 2010

  • This is very serious your 3 yr old needs to know that you are serious that she is not to touch the baby without you or daddy being there. Everytime she does touch the baby get more angry than you ever have with her and put her in time out, and keep putting her there. You need to put door handle locks on her door so she can't hurt the baby at night. She could kill the baby if she pushes her off the bed or lays on her. You need to sit her down and tell her that her behavior is not ok. She is old enough to know better than to go against what you told her. Until she shows she can be trusted you have to wear the baby and never never leave the baby alone.

    Answer by truealaskanmom at 6:51 PM on Jan. 3, 2010

  • There is a 6 year age gap with m boys. What we did was prepare our eldest (he's special needs ) ahead of time. We did social stories and we've always referred to his baby brother as OUR baby. Maybe if you included your DD in daily care, changing or bathing! And plenty of play time with all of you together. Just let her know that just because there is a new baby you don't love her any less.

    Answer by Austinsmom35 at 7:20 PM on Jan. 3, 2010

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