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My bf of 3 yrs. has gotta go! I am having a hard time telling him. I cannot afford him, I have talked to him about his part and still he will do a mechanic job then nothing. He does not make enough to stay. He has no problem eating my food, etc. Is it ok to write him a dear john and hand it to him?

 
dmr73059

Asked by dmr73059 at 1:24 PM on Jan. 5, 2010 in Relationships

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  • When he puts his keys down. Take your house key off it. Then when he leaves the house. Put all his stuff out in front. Or leave a note/dear john letter on the front door.
    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 1:28 PM on Jan. 5, 2010

  • Actually, I would place it on the table, give him the weekend to get out tell him if he don't you will have the cops escort him, change the locks then move back in, take a weekend away, or pack his stuff if you don't trust him, and put it out with the letter, make sure the locks are changed so he can't get back in.

    He probably won't leave with a letter.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:27 PM on Jan. 5, 2010

  • Amen
    afisk

    Answer by afisk at 1:28 PM on Jan. 5, 2010

  • First of all, you go girl!! Women these days put up with FAR too much! Know your worth and give him the boot. i agree with Louise2, that's what I would do.

    Good luck!!
    itsjaimiehere

    Answer by itsjaimiehere at 1:41 PM on Jan. 5, 2010

  • oooh juicy! set up a hidden camera and leave it on the table. watch the lazy fool cry!!! (sorry, im feeling a little sadistic today ;p)
    oldsoulmom

    Answer by oldsoulmom at 1:48 PM on Jan. 5, 2010

  • Sure, it's okay to write him a dear john letter. Whatever works.
    Anna92464

    Answer by Anna92464 at 1:49 PM on Jan. 5, 2010

  • OK first of all good for you for standing up for yourself! Second... a dear john letter? really? isnt that a little childesh? i also think that louise2 said was immature too. just talk to him. grow some you know whats and tell him to get out. Dont you think that since you have been together for 3 years you both deserve more that a dear john letter? give him a chance to do the right thing and move out. If then he still doesnt then i would get someone else involved like.... if you live and a apartment, the appt manager to tell him he has to go. Or if its that bad have the police deal with it.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:51 PM on Jan. 5, 2010

  • i agree with anon 1:51 completely!
    Amanda7891

    Answer by Amanda7891 at 1:52 PM on Jan. 5, 2010

  • You can go to the police department and tell them you want your boyfriend out... And it'd be nice if they could be present while he is packing his things...I've been through these types of situations with one guy and things can get really ugly QUICK. So just for safety and a "ref" there i'd have the police present...Most definitely change the locks. No need for a letter though. Just have the cops there when the guy comes home from work...
    DDTSMommy

    Answer by DDTSMommy at 2:41 PM on Jan. 5, 2010

  • However you do it, now is your chance to get out! You are not married to him, and he's already doing this stuff.
    Iamgr8teful

    Answer by Iamgr8teful at 12:15 AM on Jan. 6, 2010

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