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Anyone want more kids but DH is unsure?!

i have two young daughters who i am totally in love with! I adore the pregnancy, delivery, sleepless nights, just about everything. I want more in the future... not now. but whenver i talk to dh he seems to say its a possiblity. He wont just say yes or no. I know things in life come up and im not trying to set a date or anything i just want to know how he feels. ITs very important to me. What do you think about the situation? Am i crazy for feeling this way?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 4:38 PM on Jan. 5, 2010 in Relationships

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  • i thght i was the only one. my husband is similar he says hed like a son and thats it, im ready for number 3 now we have two beautiful girl i want them to grow up together but he doesnt really tell me straig foward..good luck tho :)
    DiandraBryant07

    Answer by DiandraBryant07 at 4:45 PM on Jan. 5, 2010

  • "I adore the pregnancy, delivery, sleepless nights,"

    Yeah, you're nuts.

    **grin**

    Did the two of you talk about how many kids before marriage? It's one of the top items for discussion before getting engaged. What did the two of you agree on then? Does that jive with what you want now?

    If you;'d agreed to more than two children before, he probably thinbks you're being a pest because the two of you have settled all that and there's no need to hash it out again. Men are like that: Issue dealt with, move on. If you'd agreed to stop at two, he may want to stick with that and is trying to avoid a fight.
    gdiamante

    Answer by gdiamante at 4:45 PM on Jan. 5, 2010

  • We both want 3 :) so we will see.
    DiandraBryant07

    Answer by DiandraBryant07 at 5:39 PM on Jan. 5, 2010

  • wow, finally somebody else that feels the same......i was ready for another one when dd was 6 mos. old...now she's 19 months, and she'll be having kids of her own before i get another one lol....dh always said he wants kids but he wants to make sure we're okay with our relationship..then it was we needed to figure out insurance (well we have insurance now)...now he's hinting at he wants to make sure we don't have to move with his job...what's next?! lol.. he has one dd from a previous marriage whom he rarely sees..and i feel like he'd be happy with just our dd now...and we did talk about kids before we got married and we both said 2 or 3..so who knows..hope it doesn't turn into a fight like it has for us..lol..good luck!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:53 PM on Jan. 6, 2010

  • ok for starters and please remember this is MY OPINION and i am not trying to be rude, that said we all know some are going to take offense... anyhow yur hubby may not want to commit to the idea one way or another, because hes torn, while he loves his kids he misses his wife. Dont get me wrong i love my children dearly but stating you are "in love" is a romantic feeling, im not saying there is anything preverse with your feelings for your children if this makes any sense at all that "in love" feeling you have toward your children, use to be directed at your hubby, i strongly believe that when it comes to a family the marriage has to come first (within reason, lets face it we all know the things our marriages miss out on once there are kids) however as marriages fall apart or families fall apart (im not just talking on the lines of marriage, sometimes the parents are together bu tnot married thats fine too lol) continue
    mommie2twogirls

    Answer by mommie2twogirls at 2:51 PM on Jan. 6, 2010

  • when the "marriage" starts to fall apart it very strongly effects the kids, us women tend to be very guilty of turning our "romantic" attention on the kids instead of the relationship, i actually have one friend who her almost 3 yr old sleeps with her while hubby sleeps in the nursery!! according to her they have sex about once or twice A YEAR since her daughter was born. Men are jealous creatures lol and as crazy as it may sound they get jealous of the kids too. Maybe work on falling back IN love with dh and just loving the kids?
    mommie2twogirls

    Answer by mommie2twogirls at 2:54 PM on Jan. 6, 2010

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