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i want to learn how to forgive and forget.

how would i go about doing that?

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Asked by Oneluv1019 at 1:23 AM on Jan. 6, 2010 in Relationships

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  • i think it depends on the situation, what are you trying to forgive and forget?

    Answer by MamaSusieQ045 at 6:59 AM on Jan. 6, 2010

  • Forgive by just emotionally letting it go. Sometimes it's easier to say it out loud or to write it down so you brain hears you want closure on it. Forgetting may take longer and not always good. We can learn from the experience so forgetting isn't as necessary but once you forgive you won't stay as focused on it. For example, if a person was forgiving a cheating spouse she could use the information to make sure she doesn't give him a reason to do it again so you wouldn't want to forget in that instance. However, every time a person stays focused on something like that she gives the OW power and control over her life and marriage again so it's best to let it go and keep the OW out of your life. So forgetting can be helpful there.

    Answer by admckenzie at 8:41 AM on Jan. 6, 2010

  • Forgiveness is one thing, forgetting is something entirely different. Unfortunately you will never forget. But the way to forgive is to make the decision to. Every time you start to think about whatever it is, consciously tell yourself that you have forgiven and are moving past it.

    Answer by RutterMama at 9:35 AM on Jan. 6, 2010

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