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What does forgive mean exactly?

i was jus thinkin wats it mean to forgive. i dnt kno if i can forgive, cuz it still always hurts.

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Asked by Mrs.Ferri at 3:22 AM on Jan. 8, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Forgive is to let go, once you can let go of whatever you are mad about then you can forgive.

    Answer by looovemybabies at 3:24 AM on Jan. 8, 2010

  • so if it still makes u mad then u haven't forgave them?

    Answer by Mrs.Ferri at 3:30 AM on Jan. 8, 2010

  • You may need help to forgive, perhaps from a counselor or clergy person. Or you just may be unable to forgive this time.

    Answer by rkoloms at 6:03 AM on Jan. 8, 2010

  • forgiveness has nothing to do with spelling Anon... sheesh get over it

    Forgiveness is to let it go, to understand that they made a bad choice and hope they know they did wrong and won't do it again.
    If you can't forgive, it will only boil inside of you and slowly it eats you up inside.
    I think it can still make you mad when you think about it but you have to try to keep your mind off of it when it starts making you mad until you can let it go completely. I always say, forgive, don't forget.
    It depends on what it is you're forgiving tho as to how hard it is. Cheating is the hardest for most people because they violated everything that your relationship stood for. It's hard to let go of that kind of pain and betrayal completely.
    Once any form of trust is broken, it's hard to repair and it'll always have that hairline crack there that's not fully sealed.

    Answer by lisa_ann_p at 7:26 AM on Jan. 8, 2010

  • And until you forgive it will always hurt just as much. Forgiveness is not something you do for the other person. It's something you do for YOU--to allow yourself to move past the pain and on with your life. Forgiving doesn't mean forgetting, but learning from the experience and taking steps to make sure it never repeats itself in your life--or if it does you see it faster and rectify it before it becomes as much of a wound as the first one was.

    Think of it this way, if someone wrongs you and you hold onto that pain and resentment, you are allowing them to live rent-free in your life. You are giving them a lot of power over you. Forgiving allows you to evict them and take your own power back. Some things are harder to forgive than others, but isn't your future worth the work?

    Good luck.


    Answer by SimplyLaine at 7:29 AM on Jan. 8, 2010

  • I agree completely with the last two answers.......lisa ann and SimplyLaine......anon obviously hasn't forgiven herself or someone else for something, she's still wallowing.

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:58 AM on Jan. 8, 2010

  • I think to forgive someone means to let go of the resentment and anger you feel towards them for whatever it was they did. It doesn't mean you forget what they did or that it's okay for them to do it again. It just means that you no longer hold negative feelings toward them for what they did.

    Answer by EmilyandIsaac at 8:15 AM on Jan. 8, 2010

  • Forgiveness is not for the other person as much as it is for you. Carrying that much anger around is only hurtful to you and is a full time job. You have to look at it as a release for yourself a healing for you and a good time to find your own forgiveness. Then you can move on and it will be up to you when you are able to do this. Take some time write a letter to the person say things you might have a hard time saying in person then decide what you are going to say to the person then do it. Find your voice and say it. After let that person know how you feel and let it go. You will feel better and this is the goal of forgiveness.


    Answer by pinkdragon36 at 9:33 AM on Jan. 8, 2010

  • Hey anon 6:53, can you please educate us all as to what "slag" is? Did you by chance mean slang? Hmmm perhaps you should spellcheck yourself before correcting others. To answer the OP's question, forgiveness is one of the hardest things to do. It's easier to forgive someone else than it is to forgive yourself. Forgiveness doesn't necessarily mean that the hurt is going to magically go away, it takes time. The amount of time can only be determined by your heart. Some people overcome things better than others. You will know in your heart when you've truly forgiven someone. Sometimes the hurt lingers because we haven't forgiven ourselves and we just don't know it. Good luck and I hope that you can find peace soon.

    Answer by nicolemstacy at 9:39 AM on Jan. 8, 2010

  • To forgive means that you no longer have any bad feelings towards the offender. You usually forget about it but still make sure a lesson has been learned. It means you wont bring it up anymore or let it come between you ever. It means you are being the better person.

    Answer by amber710 at 9:43 AM on Jan. 8, 2010

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