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any advice on our situation

my husband goes to college an hour away on m-f. he works night shift 12 hour shifts on frisay sat sunday. i babysit monday thru thursday . it seems like he is always gone. the job he has pays double any other jobs around here but i hate him working night shift. is there anything i am missing? i am a stay at home mom and we only have 1 car.

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Asked by Anonymous at 12:01 AM on Jan. 10, 2010 in Money & Work

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  • What's your question? If he's making more money there than he should stay. He won't be in college forever and than you'll be able to spend more time with him.

    Answer by SaraP1989 at 12:07 AM on Jan. 10, 2010

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    Answer by mommy2joeynabby at 12:08 AM on Jan. 10, 2010

  • MY Question Is--Am I wrong for wanting him to get a job after school on M-F so that he can have Sat and Sun off with us? He gets out of school around 1 on M-F but I would like for him to have 2 days where he does not have to leave unless he wants to.

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:12 AM on Jan. 10, 2010

  • I think that you'll regret it. Especially the pay cut. Things will get better once he's done. You'll be able to do what you want-go to school or whatever.

    Answer by SaraP1989 at 12:19 AM on Jan. 10, 2010

  • Try to keep things in perspective. It won't always be like this. Sometimes you just have to cope for awhile. Your DH wont always be in school..he wont always work nights..your kids won't always be small....things will change as time goes on you just have to get through it till then.

    Answer by Allergic2Stupid at 5:29 AM on Jan. 10, 2010

  • You need to be supportive of how hard is is working to get a better job and take care of his family!! For every hour he spends in class, he should be spending 2-3 hours doing homework and studying. Back off and do what you can to help him.

    Answer by rkoloms at 7:53 AM on Jan. 10, 2010

  • If he gets a M-F job, working the 9-5 (or 2-10) that he would need to work to make up for the 3 days that he works now, he will actually be gone MORE than he is now. And too tired to enjoy having 2 days off with you. Plus not making as much money. I would be supportive of him and keep in mind that he won't be in school forever. When he finishes school he can look for a job with more ideal hours, making more money. What he is doing now is actually most ideal for your situation right now. He isn't overdoing it with school and work and has time to rest and recover.

    Answer by slw123 at 9:41 AM on Jan. 10, 2010

  • I agree with slw. I also think you need to be able to see the end of it. So talk to him, and figure out when he is going to graduate and what that will take etc.

    I think that we can do a lot of hard things as long as we know the date it is going to end.

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:24 PM on Jan. 10, 2010

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