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Money before Paternity

Before paternity is established, does it matter if the biological father provided any money in the form of checks (there is no proof of cash) ? Would this be treated as nonexistant since it was before anything was set up? Does this differ if a woman is receiving public assistance and has gotten any money from the father, but there is no proof he is the father in the form of birth certficate, paternity test, etc.? Would this money still be considered a gift?

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Asked by Anonymous at 12:11 PM on Jan. 10, 2010 in General Parenting

Answers (5)
  • Wouldn't it all be easier if you just waited to have a baby until after you were married??

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:16 PM on Jan. 10, 2010

  • Yep, but mature people move on with life and handle things without making the same mistake twice. What does that have to do with anything? Get a life.

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:21 PM on Jan. 10, 2010

  • Until parentage is established, any monies given to the custodial parent do not count. That's why it's imperative to get a temporary order in place until all court issues are settled, because they can take a VERY long time.

    Answer by elleinad at 12:28 PM on Jan. 10, 2010

  • If the money was intended to be used for child support until an order was in place, then the father should get credit for that. You can do that by signing an affidavit to that effect.

    Otherwise, you can claim "oh, gee...I just thought he was giving me money for the heck of it!" and he'll be forced to pay you for child support to the day of the baby's birth, but that's pretty sleazy.

    Answer by Avarah at 4:40 PM on Jan. 10, 2010

  • In Ohio, any money given before court ordered support is considered a gift only and does not count towards what is owed.

    Answer by salexander at 1:24 PM on Jan. 11, 2010

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