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Would you cut all ties with your best friend if they became a different religion than you?

My best friend did this recently. I'm heartbroken.

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Asked by caitxrawks at 10:30 PM on Jan. 10, 2010 in Religion & Beliefs

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  • I absolutely would not unless my friend joined a religion that participated in human sacrifices cuz I can't be an accessory to murder, but other than way! That's totally mean!

    Answer by lowencope at 10:33 PM on Jan. 10, 2010

  • Absolutely not. Jesus was friends with all sorts of people. Religion has nothing to do with friendship and compassion. Doing this would make you an asshole, no matter how religious you purport to be.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:35 PM on Jan. 10, 2010

  • hell no! I become friends with a person because of who they are not who they worship! that is just ridiculous. if someone were to choose to stop being my friend because I changed my religion than they were obviously not really a true to friend to begin with.

    Answer by truthteller0722 at 10:36 PM on Jan. 10, 2010

  • It depends on how hard they tried to recruit me. If they were happy and left me to be happy with what I chose, then no I wouldn't drop them as a friend.

    Answer by Nathskitten at 10:36 PM on Jan. 10, 2010

  • Oh that's awful~! My bff is a Jehovahs witness and I am sort of a zen/spiritual...hmm...idk what to call myself but I believe in many things she doesn't and vice versa so we are very careful to not discuss religion, we love each other dearly and that's all that matters.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:38 PM on Jan. 10, 2010

  • solely based on their religion change, no way!

    but if their new religion severely changed their personality for the worse, then yes, eventually...especially if her new religion required her to think less of me (not saying any religions require this).

    im sorry your friend thinks she cant be around you & still be secure in her faith. maybe she thinks the lack of her friendship will bring you back to your old faith?

    Answer by okmanders at 10:38 PM on Jan. 10, 2010

  • Never. That's just shallow, IMO.


    Answer by anime_mom619 at 10:38 PM on Jan. 10, 2010

  • It depends on what religion they are now.

    Answer by officerdouglas at 10:39 PM on Jan. 10, 2010

  • nope..although, i will say, i don't have just one BFF..i like to spread myself around..i am very good friends with a handful of atheists (having known one since HS/24yrs and another for approximately 12yrs), and am quite enjoying the growing internet friendship i have with another gal we all know and love. but..all three were atheists before we i guess this doesn't count, eh? i have great friends who are extreme in xtianity (which, as we see here on CM, can be problematic and divisive).
    i stand by my answer..nope, i would not cut ties with my BFF...what kind of love does that show?

    Answer by thehairnazi at 10:39 PM on Jan. 10, 2010

  • No. I wouldn't. However, if they did things I didn't agree with or went against my beliefs, I would probably have to pull back a little. You can't expect them to be the same as you are. We all grow in different ways at different times. I'm sorry you have had this experience.

    Answer by Whatkids at 10:41 PM on Jan. 10, 2010

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