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Is your husband your what if guy?

Do you have a what if guy? You know the one guy who always pops into your mind for no reason the one who got away. My EX is my what if guy. I see him occassionally and when I do I can'nt help but wander WHAT IF. I LOVE MY SO but if anything were to ever happen between us its not hard to figure out who I would try to make things work with. He's like my fantasy guy. I tell no one and don't speak to him. But the thoughts do go astray on occassion.

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Asked by Anonymous at 3:19 PM on Jan. 11, 2010 in Just for Fun

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  • I spent 12 years dreaming about my "what if" guy... now here we are, happy cohabitants. It too some horrible circumstances to throw us together, but we've both come out the other side. *sigh* now if I could convince him that getting married again isn't a bad idea. lol (we're both recently divorced)

    Answer by ObbyDobbie at 3:22 PM on Jan. 11, 2010

  • *took

    Answer by ObbyDobbie at 3:23 PM on Jan. 11, 2010

  • I HAD my what if guy, yes. Then I got together with him, and he turned out to be an alcoholic with lunatic tendencies. Now the only guy I want is the guy I'm with. He's everything I ever dreamed of, and more.

    Answer by tropicalmama at 3:30 PM on Jan. 11, 2010

  • I have one, but it's not my husband.

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:30 PM on Jan. 11, 2010

  • I don't have a "what if guy."

    Everyone I ever dated or wish I dated, is either married, I now think is a looser, or I have no idea if their even still alive....

    I'm content not having a "what if" guy...I think having a back up plan for finances and raising kids if hubby goes is good, but I don't think it's healthy for a marriage to work out a back up plan for who you would date.

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:35 PM on Jan. 11, 2010

  • Nope, I'm happy and content with my guy.

    Answer by Raine2001 at 4:53 PM on Jan. 11, 2010

  • There are a couple nice guys I passed up for losers that come to mind sometimes and I start thinking "what if"... so yeah, I got a couple "what if" guys that are now in long term relationships with someone else. What if... aww lol

    Answer by ProudMom_5703 at 4:58 PM on Jan. 11, 2010

  • Yes i have a "what if" guy. I met him 3 yrs after marryin my husband of now 4 yrs.

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:04 PM on Jan. 11, 2010

  • I have two what if guys.

    The one I married and the one I will spend my life with because I adore him more than my own breath.

    And the one I wonder, on occasion, what would have happened had we gotten together. He's happily married last I heard so no "if things dont work out with DH I will go his direction".

    Answer by Amaranth361 at 6:56 PM on Jan. 11, 2010

  • hahaha... I am getting a divorce, and my what if guy seen my status updates on facebook and we have been talking on the phone and e-mailing since then... Things are kinda heating up between us, so I may get to see where this goes. Maybe bad things happen for good reasons? lol!

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:11 PM on Jan. 11, 2010

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