I think probably every woman thinks at some point that she must have married the wrong man. The truth is that even if he was, once you've made vows to him, he has become the right man. The thing about marriage that most people don't know is that the two becoming one is a process, a very long process. There are adjustments that have to be made, and those last for a lifetime. There is no doubt that some people are easier to live with than others, but a big part of that has to do with our own personalities. It is a proven fact that women who marry multiple times choose the same character traits in every man to whom they are married. That should tell us something--if changes need to be made, those most often need to happen in ourselves. Marriage is a furnace that burns away those parts of us that we need to get rid of anyway. So, your wrong man is probably in actuality the right man who has just stirred up the you in you.
at 8:51 AM on Jan. 12, 2010