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what should i do?

i love my husband but i never see him i never get time it's like i don't even know who he is anymore. we just had a baby girl we already had a 2 year old son but my husband leaves at 5 in the morning and on a good day i see him at 6 that afternoon but most of the time it's not till 7 and when he gets here the house has 2 b clean and have 2 have dinner ready or he'll cuss me out and i have 2 bring the food i cooked while whatch the kids to him i just feel like a maid or somebody's bitch i don't know what 2 do he comes home eat takes a shower and goes 2 bed.

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 4:00 PM on Jan. 13, 2010 in Relationships

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Answers (10)
  • well i know how you feel you need to talk to him i myself have a son who is 2 yrs and a daughter who just turned 1 yr.. it's hard to do everything at times but i could see why you would feel like that i dont htink you should initiate sex if you just want more time with him ... and he has no right cussing you out if you didnt have time to cook him anything that day! hes full of it... he probbaly thinks its easy taking care of 2 babies and still cook clean and wash .... i would leave him with the kids for a whole day and maybe then he'll learn how hard it is to do what you do...good luck
    Naralie

    Answer by Naralie at 4:22 PM on Jan. 13, 2010

  • Have you talked to him about it? If you let him know how you feel, he may change his ways. I'm sure he wouldn't be able to change his work schedule, but if you tell him how you're feeling he may change the way he does things while he's home. Good luck!
    mama2br00ke

    Answer by mama2br00ke at 4:04 PM on Jan. 13, 2010

  • do you try to initiate sex.. that may help.. if he is stressed he could be taking it out on you.. i know its hard to get in the mood with an ass of a husband but its worth a shot, maybe he will start being more loving.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:06 PM on Jan. 13, 2010

  • men think just cause u stay home and dont have a job, that u just sit at home doing nothing! sounds like he doesnt have any time for u..u must stand up for urself and dont be his bitch!!!! i hate it when men treat women like that...y the fukc cant he take his own food???????
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:07 PM on Jan. 13, 2010

  • i dont think he wants her to bring his food for him if hes stressed out! c'mon...i can understand if he cuss u out if he comes home hungry and there's nothing to eat, because of the stress..but its too much if u have to bring the food for him!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:11 PM on Jan. 13, 2010

  • Stand up for urself n tell him u have a job as well
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:15 PM on Jan. 13, 2010

  • CONT. n its NOT being his maid
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:16 PM on Jan. 13, 2010

  • Well with all do respect, if you are a stay at home mom, and he works 12 hour days, you should have dinner ready for him when he comes home. His job is making the money, your job is the homemaker plain and simple. Does it excuse his bad behavior towards you? NO, it does not! You need to try and make him realize all of what you do and how busy you are taking care of a two year old and a newborn baby. It's not an easy job. Do not let him cuss at you, nobody deserves that. I know it's hard to have no help from him because he works long hours, but I'm sure he's just as miserable being away from his family. Try and calmly, and without being emotional, talking to him about it. Men don't express their feelings, they keep them bottled inside. Use words like "i feel" at the beginning of every sentence because he's more likely to listen to you and emphazise with you. I hope you can make him see your side and vice versa.
    TattooedMommy04

    Answer by TattooedMommy04 at 4:19 PM on Jan. 13, 2010

  • Talk to him and see if that helps, be honest. If he doesn't care about your feelings, well you have your answer...you ARE the maid. Then you have some decissions to make.
    salexander

    Answer by salexander at 4:29 PM on Jan. 13, 2010

  • You teach people how to treat you. He obviously has no value or respect for you. I recommend talking to him - and reading the book - "Love and Respect"
    RutterMama

    Answer by RutterMama at 4:33 PM on Jan. 13, 2010

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