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Is it still a friendship or should I be concerned??

About a year ago my neighbors wife left him. He was devastated. We became friends and would occasionally talk. Mostly about his wife and what she was doing. Cheating, not taking her medicine, and drinking again. ( she was an alcoholic). We would talk maybe 1 or 2 times a week. In person or on the phone. I was trying to be a friend to him during this difficult time. At some point, I think he kinda

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 6:14 PM on Jan. 15, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Well of course, if you two haven't decided to be a couple together than you are still just friends.
    sexy_can_i

    Answer by sexy_can_i at 6:16 PM on Jan. 15, 2010

  • You forgot to mention one thing are you married or in any type of relationship besides this guy?? It sounds like its on its way to becoming a relationship, and it definatly sounds like he is already thinking of it as a relationship, so if you don't want to take it any further you better let him know and do it fast before he starts getting the wrong ideas.
    jsimonds220

    Answer by jsimonds220 at 6:17 PM on Jan. 15, 2010

  • i ditto jsimonds220
    mommymeg03

    Answer by mommymeg03 at 6:27 PM on Jan. 15, 2010

  • its a friendship unless either of you both decide to make it more than friendship. Now he seems to be taken by you so if you reciprocate the feelings and aren't involved with anyone else then do what you feel is best...
    LynnB1

    Answer by LynnB1 at 6:28 PM on Jan. 15, 2010

  • totally agree with jsimonds220.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:29 PM on Jan. 15, 2010

  • When guys get hurt, they tend to cling to the first female that will be an emotional support to them. Make it clear to him what your intentions with him are so that he doesn't get his hopes up and get hurt again. He's in a fragile state right now, be careful.
    nicolemstacy

    Answer by nicolemstacy at 8:00 PM on Jan. 15, 2010

  • If you aren't married and neither is he, then I don't see why that would be a problem. But if he feels something for you and you don't have mutual feelings, then don't string him along anymore, get straight to the point but tactfully. You don't want to lead him on. Many woman complain about being led on by men, so you can certainly understand what I mean. Always remember if you get involved with a man on the rebound, you could end up hurt. When men are lonely they want to be satisfied sexually out of loneliness and rebound/rebellion/anger. You don't want to be caught in the middle of that mess.
    FriendforLife

    Answer by FriendforLife at 12:53 AM on Jan. 16, 2010

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