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Advice on 6 year old that always wants to be called on, win, etc. in school!

My son is in the 1st grade..he's very smart, above grade level on every subject and reads on a 3rd grade level. He's very bright, eager to learn and respectful...he can be a mr. Know it all....however he is having issues in school. He always wants to be called on when participating and gets upset if the teacher calls on another student...he gets further upset if the student is wrong and he knows the answer....he also gets upset if the teacher praises other students..he also gets upset if he doesn't win at games or whatever. He's gotten student of the month awards 3 times already...once for his class, once for spanish and once for gym. He's never received less than a 100 on any quiz so far..

Of course he receives disciplined at home for this behavior...and we constantly reiterate that school is for everyone and that he should be happy for his classmates. He of course gets plenty of attention and praise at home as well.

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Asked by Anonymous at 8:04 PM on Jan. 15, 2010 in General Parenting

Answers (6)
  • sounds like he is much more advanced than his grade and other students and he is getting bored and frusterated for this reason, is there any advanced classes he can take or any extra cirricular activities he can participate in?

    Answer by jsimonds220 at 8:13 PM on Jan. 15, 2010

  • I agree with the abover poster. Is he socially with it the way he is academically? Maybe he should skip a year?

    Answer by jeanclaudia at 9:02 PM on Jan. 15, 2010

  • I would def. talk with the school counselor about this. Just because he is above average scholastically doesnt mean he is ready to skip grades emotionally. This is def a touchy situation as it does seem that your son is bored.


    Answer by mistynights234 at 9:19 PM on Jan. 15, 2010

  • OP here...he does karate, swimming, sports outside of school and is a wonderful team player. He has friends in school and is very social.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:21 PM on Jan. 15, 2010

  • Maybe is getting too much praise at home. Put him in a more advanced class.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:53 PM on Jan. 15, 2010

  • Sorry, but if he was a "good teamplayer" he wouldn't HAVE to be first at everything or always called on. He needs to understand that as part of a team, he has to take turns and can't win at everything. If he does insist on being first for everything or acting like a know it all, his friends will eventually get sick of it and not be his friends anymore. It happens everyday.

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 12:11 AM on Jan. 16, 2010

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