Communication is absolutely essential. I've been married to the same man for almost 19 years, lived together a year before that too. Even if the truth hurts, he has to be honest with you and you with him. Don't hold a grudge either, if a small thing bothers you, then mention it right away before it gets to be a big thing. Laugh together daily and enjoy eachother as friends as well as lovers. Don't give up on your marriage too easy either! This is a big one for me. We survived infidelity, the loss of our first child, and an 18 month tour in Iraq where he was perminantly disabled by a roadside bomb. All high stress, but we worked through it all ourselves and our marriage just got stronger each time. Remember why you married him in the first place too and love eachother whole heartedly.
at 11:37 PM on Jan. 15, 2010