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What are some ways I could speak to my kids about my oldest child who was adopted 10 years ago?

I still have contact with him, and he has actually come to see me and stay with me several times. I had him at 16 and he was adopted by a family member. My kids are getting older and asking why big brother doesn't live with us. I want to be honest, but only tell them a little at a time, so they can process it. Will they hate me? I have a lot of feelings of guilt and failure that I don't want to project onto my kids. I am just as bonded with him as the other kids and want them to know that. Any ideas on how to do this would be wonderful.


Asked by Anonymous at 12:59 PM on Jan. 17, 2010 in Adoption

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  • be honest. you were too young when you had him you couldnot take care of him the way you wanted to so you let ----------- raise him. you love him very much but ciuldn't take care of him as well as ---------- so she is his mother also. this is a good way to express how premarital sex can affect you life for ever.

    Answer by mom2snsb at 1:32 PM on Jan. 17, 2010

  • Thank you so much for your reply! It was the only one, but the best one!

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:01 PM on Jan. 17, 2010