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2 yr old to sleep

please help me. my 2 almost 3 yr old doesnt sleep enough which makes him grumpy and almost impossible to deal with by the end of the day. he wont take a nap and when he does, it isnt until 3-4-5 in the evening which means he wont go to bed at night. which means im up yelling and puttin ghim back in bed 300 times. and he wont go to sleep til 10-11 or i give up and put him in my bed. and then he wakes up 1-3 times a night. sometimes to use the bathroom, but other times just because. i am getting no sleep between him and my 6 month old. any suggestions?

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Asked by Anonymous at 7:19 PM on Jan. 18, 2010 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • Try and be firmer... He doesn't have to take a nap, but if you could aim for a 1 o clock nap it would be great.. but DON'T LET HIM SLEEP AT 4 OR 5... keep him up as long as possible and then hopefully he'll be ready for bed around 8 or so... and when its bed time then put him in bed..don't give him water or anything to drink that late so that he won't be getting up to use the bathroom.. and for now he is pushing you because of the new baby... it is better to put him back in bed 300 times for a few days then to not have any control for months.. good luck..

    Answer by Jan0609momma at 7:35 PM on Jan. 18, 2010

  • Make sure that he is eating hardy, balanced meals throughout the day and getting plenty of liquids to drink. If he isn't getting enough to eat or drink during the day that will cause him to have a change in schedule. That will also give him lots of good energy, which he should be burning in acitivities throughout the day. It's important that he use up all of his energy by bed time, so that he's not going to bed restless or wide awake. If he has pent up energy he isn't going to get a restful sleep, or will decide he doesn't want to go to bed at all. Start a daily routine with him if you haven't already. Having a set routine will let him know what to expect throughout the day. That will help him calm himself when it's time for bed. Especially have a (contin)

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 7:40 PM on Jan. 18, 2010

  • (contin) have a night time routine. Dinner, bath time, drink before bed, story or snuggle time watching a movie and then bedtime. When it is getting close to bed time after his bath turn down the lights. The more lights that are on, the more awake he will stay. Try and only have a couple of lights on to set the bedtime mood. Especially whil you're reading him a story. Talk in a soft voice to help ease him into a tired state. If it helps, show him on the clock when bedtime is about an hour or two before he has to go to bed. Then let him know that he has X amount of time to do what he wants before it's lights out. Then do his bedtime routine and put him to bed. When putting him to bed comfort him by saying something like "Goodnight Jimmy, mommy and Daddy love you." Then give him a kiss, turn out the light and walk out. When you're putting him back only say "It's time for bed, please go to sleep" once, then say nothing more.

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 7:44 PM on Jan. 18, 2010

  • Don't go in his room at all during night. Kids will stay awake just the get the attention of you going to see them (even if it is negative yelling attention). Tuck him in and explain that you're not coming back into his room until the morning.

    If you're worried about him going to the bathroom just use pull-ups or put a little potty chair by his bed (depending on how well trained he is).

    He'll scream and yell and make your nights absolutely horrible for the fist couple of nights you leave him alone, but then he'll get it, and just go to sleep on his own - as long as you don't give in when it's hard those first nights.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:20 PM on Jan. 18, 2010

  • Try getting him on a firmer schedule. Have a set time for "quiet time" or nap if he will take one. If he doesn't take a nap within that time frame, don't let him have one later. Just put him to bed at night, and if he keeps getting up, put him right back to bed without talking to him. He is likely looking for attention as others have mentioned.

    Here is an example of my sons schedule, and he will be 3 in May.
    7:30-8am He wakes up
    1-3pm He has quiet or nap (usually he will nap)
    8-8:30pm Bedtime

    Answer by navybaby17 at 10:37 PM on Jan. 18, 2010

  • I agree with PP's about being firm on your boys schedule, a good bedtime routine, and leaving him alone.

    If he's old enough, and responds to this kind of thing, you can also do the whole poster with "sleeping rules" with a sticker chart and little rewards too.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:39 PM on Jan. 18, 2010

  • OP here
    i dont LET him sleep at that time. im usually not here when it happens. and he has a very set scheduale during the day. he wears pull ups at night, but still wakes to go to the bathroom. we have a bed time routine. i have been firm. why do you think he is not sleeping in my bed? he was (daddy is deployed) becasue i let him once because he was sick. he sleeps in his bed, and i make him go back. thats not the problem, after hes asleep anyway. and he is deathly afraid of the dark

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:43 PM on Jan. 18, 2010

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