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how can i keep my 3 month old from staying up 2-3hrs in the middle of the night.

i have routine. it starts with a warm bath, massage, cuddling and feeding. DS sleeps for 1 hr after that and wakes up to cry and just fuss for 2-3 hrs before he finaly falls asleep. If he doesn't fuss and cry enough when he wakes up the first time when he wakes up for the second feeding he will refuse to go back to sleep until he does enough crying for the night. i know he is not colicky cos he lauhgs and plays in the middle of crying and if i talk to him he will stop crying and play. what should i do? i realy don't want to make him cry i feel realy bad. pls help.

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Asked by Anonymous at 7:28 PM on Jan. 20, 2010 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • You're going to have to get over the whole not wanting to make him cry and just let him cry it out. When he wakes in the night for a feeding, don't turn too many lights on, especially no TV. I have a rock salt lamp I used when my little ones were still doing night feedings. Don't stimulate him too much, talk softly, no playing. Just feed him, quickly snuggle him and put him back in bed. If he cries, he cries. He will quickly learn that there is no playing after the middle of the night feedings. You'll have to put up with a few nights of crying but they learn fast :) GL

    Answer by Allergic2Stupid at 9:05 PM on Jan. 20, 2010

  • 3 months old is WAY too young to "let him cry it out". Would you leave him alone to cry during the daytime? You should not leave a 3 month old to cry at night either.
    Feed him and hold him after "lights out" but try to avoid engaging and playing with him. Don't turn on the lights. Just hold him and comfort him quietly. He may cry, but being held and crying in mom's arms is very different then leaving him alone.

    Answer by maggiemom2000 at 9:49 PM on Jan. 20, 2010

  • All i can say is try and keep him up in the day as much as you can...he will take naps yes thats fine but make sure they are not to long... SWADDLE him thats the best thing you can do!!!..when my three month old is hungry at night i get her out the crib...maybe turn a lil soft music on feed her and put her back...she might be a lil fussy but i give her, her nuk and eventually let her ease her way back to sleep!!...

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:30 PM on Jan. 20, 2010

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