Been married for almost 20 yrs,have 2 teen boys, moved to a new state 3.5 yrs ago am upside down on my mortgage selling isn't an option. The mortgage is in my name,both are on the title w/the town. We've had the same issues for 20 yrs. The move made all of us happier, he's mellowed a bit, in the end he's the same now as he was 20 yrs ago. For 20 yrs I've not been asked about my day, if I whine to him 4 not about not asking then I get asked for a few (I do 3 12 hr nite shifts wk). He's a functioning alcoholic, some wks he isn't drinking M-Th he'll make up for it F,Sat(Sun goes eithr way). I'm sick of him passin out, 10 beers is 10. I'm the responsible adult, so sort of a single parent. When I'm off, driving the kids around is my SOLE responsibility. Occas he travels for wrk,when he's gone it is SO peacefl me n the kids watched tv togethr(NVR when he's home).Kids don't want him be here. W/out gettn legal how do I get him to go?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 2:35 PM on Jan. 21, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by Anonymous at 2:39 PM on Jan. 21, 2010
Answer by mz.dee400 at 3:03 PM on Jan. 21, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 3:43 PM on Jan. 21, 2010
W/out gettn legal how do I get him to go?
I'm not sure I understand your last statement. If you are 100% sure you are done with the marriage, why don't you want to legally divorce him? I had a friend whose husband filed for divorce without her knowing. The cops showed up at their house, served the papers, and told her she had 15 minutes to leave the premises. She was only allowed to take her clothes and toiletries. She had to leave everything else, including their son. It was over a year before she was able to get anything more once the divorce was final.
Anyway, it seems the person who files may have the "upper hand" so again, you might be ahead doing something through the courts.
Answer by Dyndudes at 4:10 PM on Jan. 21, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 2:56 AM on Jan. 22, 2010