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my hubby is Very touchy feely and i hate it....

he wont stop when i ask him and we always end up fighting about it. i love him to death but i am almost at the end if my rope. i don't like to be felt up at all times and i wish he would just stop. how can i tell him without getting into a big fight?

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AmyW87

Asked by AmyW87 at 7:10 PM on Jan. 21, 2010 in Relationships

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  • What does touchy feely mean to him?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:13 PM on Jan. 21, 2010

  • he wants you and obviously needs you....that's great. now maybe give him that "touchy, feel-y, playtime" he's asking for and when all is said and done....THEN let him know it's okay to have your moments, but being like that all the time makes you feel like a piece of meat....GL
    Bugsmommy1908

    Answer by Bugsmommy1908 at 7:14 PM on Jan. 21, 2010

  • My husband is still like that after 22 years. I knew he was like that when I met him, and although sometimes it drives me crazy, I think that if he stopped I'd wonder who he was "feeling up" instead of me. He generally sneaks it in when no one else is around to see, although I always worry that someone will walk in. I don't know if you can change him, especially if he was like this before you married him. You might ask him gently to try to limit it a little to times when you're more relaxed. I know for me if I'm busy and trying to get things done, or certain "times", I become more annoyed with it. Overall, I've come to accept it though..... and to be honest, I know it means he still finds me attractive and wants me, and that's a problem I don't really want to complain about......
    ohwrite

    Answer by ohwrite at 7:18 PM on Jan. 21, 2010

  • I had this issue. Hind sight being 20/20 here is what I figured out. I LOVED it when we were dating, and it felt normal. Then when we had kids (we were only married 7 mo. when I got pregnant) I went into touch over load. I was a breast feeding sahm with an in house day care. Then when I stopped doing the day care I had my second child (they are only 22 mo. apart). Hubby needed some attention so he up'd his cuddling, however, I was on 'touch overload'.... the combination was not good. Id ask him to stop, and he would take it personally.... though that is not how I meant it.

    my kids are now 15 and 13 and we have been married 16 yrs.... it is better.... but it took understanding from me... and some times I just grinned and bared it. We worked it out.

    be patient.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:19 PM on Jan. 21, 2010

  • My husband is like that and I can't stand it! He's not into holding hands or cuddling while watching tv, it's more the grab the boobs all the time thing.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:33 PM on Jan. 21, 2010

  • girl are you that hot? probably not,but yet he still wants you,look at it for what it is,if you dont like it,he'll find someone that will.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:05 PM on Jan. 21, 2010

  • Talk to him about boundaries. If he doesn't get it, make an appointment with a marriage counselor for both of you and let them explain boundaries to him.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:09 PM on Jan. 21, 2010

  • My ex husband NEVER touched me. I mean he wouldn't even kiss me or hold my hand in public. Be lucky that you have a man like that because it sucks to not have that affection. My fiance now is VERY touchy feely and I love it. Count your blessings.
    worriedmommy600

    Answer by worriedmommy600 at 9:43 PM on Jan. 21, 2010

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