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I know that this is now way to be.....

I have been friends with a girl for almost 20 years & granted we don't get to see each other anymore because of jobs, family. kids..... But we still invite each other to everything we have. My daughter has had 4 birthdays that she hasn't came to, sent a present or even RSVP'd to & I have invited her to various cookouts & my DH's surprise 40th party with no phone call that she wasn't coming or anything. I have not attended her DD's parties because the first, my sister was getting married & the second she had two hours away on July 4th but did send gifts & I have been to everything else that she has invited me to. Well she is having her second baby & her shower is Sunday & I am thinking about not going because I am tired of the situation. I know two wrongs don't make a right but I am fed up. Am I in the wrong?

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Asked by Anonymous at 8:40 PM on Jan. 21, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Yes, best friends don't got tic for tack. I haven't seen my childhood friend of 40 years in the past two years, or heard from her, but that doesn't stop my love for her. And, if I had the money, I would send her a present or pay her cell phone bill without blinking an eye. I don't consider anyone my friend who can't take no for an answer or understand that I can't or won't attend every function. I do it from the heart or not at all.

    Answer by Ewadun at 9:10 PM on Jan. 21, 2010

  • I agree with Ewadun. Your friend may be going through a tough time and may be withdrawing herself from social activities. Try talking to her about it instead of shutting her out at a time that she may need you the most.

    Answer by nicolemstacy at 9:12 PM on Jan. 21, 2010

  • I can see why you feel the way you do..friendship has to be reciprocated in order to be kept alive and sounds like you are investing far more than she is......idk... I might not go if I were you, but that's just me...I'd feel like she didn't give a crap about me if she didn't even bother to let me know she couldn't come when I invited her...

    Answer by chocolatluver at 9:29 PM on Jan. 21, 2010

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