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my 21 mo. old daughter displays overly fearful clingy behavior in small mommy and me group like settings..she is so clingy, refuses to sing songs, mimic song motions or activities in the group...but is so friendly, cheerful, playful at home with us. Will she grow out of this..i'm hoping. Her behavior is so emotional..could it be more?

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Asked by Anonymous at 9:38 PM on Jan. 21, 2010 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • i wouldnt worry. it takes time getting used to new people. i help run a playgroup and we see that often. just keep going to the groups and encourage her to interact and she will warm up to the crowd when she is ready.


    Answer by Anonymous at 9:46 PM on Jan. 21, 2010

  • It sounds like the two of you are well-bonded. One day, she will tell you to pretend that you don't know her - enjoy this!

    Answer by rkoloms at 7:28 AM on Jan. 22, 2010

  • My daughter's first major wave of separation anxiety lasted from about 17 or 18 months until a little after her second birthday. She still, at 2.5, is really reticent when she first walks into a room full of people, whether she knows them a little or not... but now she opens up and is chummy with everyone (and showing off) within a couple of minutes. She's not a shy person, it's a developmental stage. They have to develop these fears and anxieties as they learn that they're vulnerable in this world... really, it's a good thing to know (otherwise, why not just cross the street without looking both ways!). After this one passes, the imaginary fears will set in -- monsters and ghosts in her room, etc (that's where we are now). Good luck -- enjoy the cuddles.

    Answer by EmilySusan at 9:17 AM on Jan. 22, 2010

  • Once she gets used to everyone she will relax and be herself. Give her time

    Answer by admckenzie at 9:33 AM on Jan. 22, 2010

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