I have an 18 yr old son. He's a bright kid, but lacks common sense God Gave a goose(my father said the same thing about me at his age...go figure) Anyway, he doesn't pay any rent living here, nor did he finish school, he doesn't have a job that gives him a weekly paycheck, and he eats the food and uses my puter and he and my other kids father(i'm divorced) do not get along very well.
I am torn between putting my foot down and telling him to get a job and do something constructive with his life or move out. But that mom side of me that loves him dearly, would feel bad if God-forbid something should happen to him because I told him that. Am I being unreasonable in asking him to do these things? I don't want it to seem like i'm doing this because of my SO(we have issues too and i'm working on getting a job, going back to school, moving out etc..) so should i wait til i'm on my own or start putting my foot down now.
Answer by CinderAmethyst at 11:54 AM on Jan. 23, 2010
Answer by nsrush83 at 11:59 AM on Jan. 23, 2010
Our 19 year old daughter, not get a job or continue her education she just wanted to party and have fun. She would tell me, "mom these are the best years of my life". It has always been difficult to say no to her she is our first born child. Our daughter always knew how to work us and get her way. Her father and I sat her down gave her the rules we always had for her. This time we followed through, no JOB no cellular phone, no JOB no spending money. We stopped buying our daughter stuff taking her places (she does not drive) and feeding into her drama. It was difficult but how was she going to be responsible if we did not make her?? Our daughter is now working, moved out with her boyfriend (very difficult to let her go) and is being responsible!
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