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ok so my 6 month old has just started this thing where he cries when i leave the room. he has never done this b 4. he use to b perfectly content laying in the floor playing with toys. my husband and i dont sit around holding him all day so i dont know where he got spoiled from. any advice on what to do?

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Asked by shawnajo at 8:31 PM on Jan. 23, 2010 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • is called sepeartion anxiety. all abies go thru it. its not cuz he is spoil. it a pahse it will be over in a few months. so kids do get it worse then others. but there is nothing you can do really.

    Answer by piwife at 8:32 PM on Jan. 23, 2010

  • For goodness sakes. he's NOT spoiled.
    He's a baby and he's reached an important developmental milestone. He is more aware of when people go away now. It's separation anxiety. It is NORMAL and he will out grow it. Pick him up, or bring him into the same room with you so he can see you. It's not that hard to move the baby into any room you happen to be in.

    Answer by amileegirl at 8:33 PM on Jan. 23, 2010

  • yeah hes not spoiled, my daughter did the same thing, still does kind of. shes 13 months old, and follows me around constantly, which is fine with me, but it did freak me out at first, and im not a constant touching/holding her mommy. all babes do it.

    Answer by LA09TKP at 8:38 PM on Jan. 23, 2010

  • He cannot understand that when he cannot see you that you are still here. He thinks that when he can't see you you're just gone. Disappeared. That's a pretty scary thing for a baby whose life depends on you. Get a baby sling and carry him with you.

    Answer by outstandingLove at 8:39 PM on Jan. 23, 2010

  • well we have 2 other kids and they never did anything like this. and he usually is in the same room with me but if i'm trying to clean house or tending to the other kids and i leave the room he starts cying right aways.

    Answer by shawnajo at 8:46 PM on Jan. 23, 2010

  • babies can't be spoiled.

    Answer by autodidact at 9:35 PM on Jan. 23, 2010

  • If you have never had to go through separation anxiety before then count yourself blessed. This is a very normal thing, and can happen off and on again through infant and toddler years. He is just becoming more aware that he's noticed you can leave him, and it may upset him. All you need to do is show him that you always come back. If you leave the room and he starts crying, wait a min and then go back in. As he learns you can increase the time away and he'll start becoming more comfortable.

    Answer by adove01 at 9:48 PM on Jan. 23, 2010

  • As pp's have said, this is an important milestone called seperation anxiety. He's in the process of learning that when he can't see you, it doesn't mean you're gone. The more he sees you go and come back, the more confident he will be that you will always return, and the anxiety will pass. Playing games like peek-a-boo help with this as well. It's a fun way to show that mommy's not gone, she's just hiding and will be right back. Also, babies cannot be spoiled. It's impossible. The kid that is kicking and screaming because nobody is buying him a cell phone is spoiled. A baby that cries because he needs something and crying is his only way of communicating is not spoiled.

    Answer by nicolemstacy at 10:02 PM on Jan. 23, 2010

  • He's not spoiled he's just started noticing things more now and your absence is one of them! It's normal.

    Answer by Allergic2Stupid at 12:04 AM on Jan. 24, 2010

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