The belt is a physical threat...and not a great one at that. You want them to respect you, not fear you. Have a family meeting set down the rules, chore list and whatever else needs to be addressed. Tell them from this point on they will be told once, if they do not comply they get ONE warning..after that they get a consequence. You list out consequences for those things. The most important part is YOU have to foloow through EVERY single time. They will fight you harder at first. If you stick hard to you guns they will soon learn you mean business just like Dad. I don't know what age kids you have but for instance Loss of TV. video games,computer time always worked well. When my son got older I think he had a phone surgically planted in his ear. He was on it constantly. I "killed him" one time. I took his phone priviledges away for 3 days. He actuallly thought he wasn't going to live through it. I hated grounding my kids.
at 11:00 PM on Jan. 23, 2010