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? about catholic priests piqued my interest. Can pastors, ministers and JW elders take care of their congregations and their needs well even if they are married?


Asked by Anonymous at 8:33 PM on Jan. 24, 2010 in Religion & Beliefs

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  • I answered in the other post, but I believe that pastors of non-Catholic churches generally have smaller congregations. In my personal experience that's been true, anyway.
    For example, our parish has 1500 families (not members, families) with 1 full time priest and 1 part time priest. I don't know of any other congregation around here that has that member/pastor ratio.

    So, OP, I do think that married clergy can take care of their congregation and family as long as neither is toally time consuming. Meaning, as long as the clerical duties are more in line with a "regular" job time wise. Does that make sense?

    Answer by indymom22 at 10:23 PM on Jan. 24, 2010

  • Yes. In fact, I've found that married priests (Anglican and Episcopal priests may marry) often have their wife right by their side, helping minister to the needs of the congregation. My priest and his wife brought over dinner for us when we had our daughter, and have babysat for us on numerous occasions.

    Answer by christaberk at 8:37 PM on Jan. 24, 2010

  • a few years ago I heard a statistic that the divorce rate among married clergy was around 50%

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:40 PM on Jan. 24, 2010

  • From my experience they can, but they also as pointed out in the other question don't usually have the same work load as a Catholic Priest.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:45 PM on Jan. 24, 2010

  • A Newsweek article states: “In recent years the divorce rate for protestant clergy has risen to match the general population.” In other words, clergy and their families are not immune to the human tragedies that infect us all. The Bible explicitly describes how pastors should treat their families: “You must manage your own family well, with children who respect and obey you. For if you cannot manage your own household, how can you take care of God’s church?” (1 Timothy 3:4-5) Good question!


    Answer by Anonymous at 8:46 PM on Jan. 24, 2010

  • OP here, what kind of work load does a Catholic priest have? i used to go to a catholic church, but all i ever saw them do was organize a couple of groups a youth one and something else and go see people in the hospital.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:50 PM on Jan. 24, 2010

  • For Catholics it's not so much the work-load. Many "callings" like the clergy or doctors or nurses or teachers even small business owners have huge workloads. But Holy Orders (the sacrament a man receives to become a priest) is life-long, just like the sacrament of marriage is (which is why priests are said to be married to the church). If things become too difficult for a man or his family, they can stop being pastors or ministers - a man is always a priest and is expected to always remain a priest. Something like 2/3 of pastors/ministers leave their post before they retire. The average length is about 14 years. The level of commitment for the Catholic priesthood is higher than it is for pastors/ministers. Certainly married men can serve a church- Catholics allow deacons to be married - but again the life-long commitment needed for Catholic priesthood that can be challenging for men.

    Answer by eringobrough at 9:02 PM on Jan. 24, 2010

  • My mom went to the hospital last year, the priest was called to the hospital to anoint her. He showed up every day to pray with her(us) he did this for everyone in the hospital that asked. Not just the Catholics.

    We have 4 scheduled Masses on the weekend. He says each of them and hold confession on Saturday. We have two Masses each day during the week. He says them both.

    He is also teaching the confirmation class and will say the Mass for the confirmation class, the first communion class and any baptisim, marriages and funerals. One day he held 5 different Masses 3 of them funerals.

    After this, he is trying to help out at the school as much as needed in addition to help the community. We have a public anointing of the sick once a month but has been called out several houses for anointing and Vatican. One priest is on the board at the Catholic highschool and college and helps run the parish grade school.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:02 PM on Jan. 24, 2010

  • what kind of work load does a Catholic priest have?

    Daily mass takes at least an hour and a half each day, and mass is said 7 days a week, not just on Sunday. Funerals and wakes, a Catholic funeral w/ full mass is over an hour, plus grave services plus services at the wakes and the consultations ahead of the funeral to go over the family's wishes. Christenings, Home Hospice, hospital visits, marriage counseling, pre-marriage counseling, family counseling, individual counseling, first communions, confirmations, confession, home visits, plus any other charity work like working in food pantries or shelters.
    Some of those things, like confirmation classes or part of the pre-marriage counseling can be handled by deacons, but most of it you are not allowed to do unless you are a fully ordained priest. In training isn't good enough.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:06 PM on Jan. 24, 2010

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    He is setting up programs for our youth and finding a way to send the youth to camp. He is looking for ways to help out with the fundraising that needs to be done in the church as well as make sure each parent volunteer has gone through the correct background check.

    He works with the men in the parish that would like to join the priest hood, he also councils couples that want to marry as well as those having difficulties in their marriage. He is responsible for not only running the parish but making sure the parish is kept clean and safe.

    During the high volume of snow fall it is his job to round up volunteers or hire a group to shovel the walks. We never cancel church so the priest that run two different parishes must travel in snowy condition to get to different parishes in a small amount of time. Priest with parish schools are often involved in hiring and curriculum procedures.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:08 PM on Jan. 24, 2010