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My 5 yr old son is currently going to kindergarden and he's constantly having accidents.

At first it was every once in a while but lately (past 2 months) it's every other day. he'll caome home wearing different clothes because he's had an accident and didn't let the teacher know or did tell anyone he had to go. does anyone have any ideas on what i should do? i feel as if i'm a bad parent or didn't do the right things.

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Asked by tracy_n at 4:37 PM on Jan. 26, 2010 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • What's important is solving the problem not feeling guilty.

    I would go to school for a day and watch what goes on to figure out why it's happening and what can be done.

    Answer by Gailll at 4:42 PM on Jan. 26, 2010

  • Have you talked to the school nurse about it? Does he have anxiety about going to school? I wonder if he's just not ready to be away from home for that long without you. If he doesn't have problems at home, then it's probably an emotional thing and not a physical problem, but the poor kid is probably embarassed. :( Don't beat yourself up about it, but just try & work something out with his teacher to give him more frequent breaks maybe. If he is just nervous or scared about being at school, there is probably a school counselor you can talk to for suggestions.

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:47 PM on Jan. 26, 2010

  • Some kids are just too young to be in a group-care situation like that... without someone who is really taking care of him, he doesn't know how to get what he needs (like someone paying attention to when he might need to go) without having to be very different from his temperament.

    Placid, easy going kids are one kind who have difficulty 'interrupting' what's going on. Extraverts don't want to miss anything, so they'll 'hold it' way longer than is safe or healthy. Intraverts are often overwhelmed by the number of people they have to interact with, so they lose touch of what's going on in their own bodies. All of them will outgrow it, and learn to deal with it.

    Answer by LindaClement at 7:51 PM on Jan. 26, 2010

  • How does he have different clothes on if he didn't let anyone know?

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:28 PM on Jan. 26, 2010

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