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sleep training

everyone says we should sleep train our 9month old and dont get me wrong i would love a full nights sleep but i dont believe in the CIO method i believe its cruel and unnatural to allow your baby to lay in a room by himself and cry to sleep i dont think it teaches him to sooth i think it teaches him no one is coming if he cries. Do anyone else have any good ways of getting him to sleep or our there any books out there?

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Asked by Jaxsmommy09 at 6:41 PM on Jan. 26, 2010 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • You might want to wait a bit. Nine months is prime growth spurt time, coupled with teething, AND learning new milestones. All of these will affect sleep and make anything you try exceptionally difficult.

    Answer by amileegirl at 6:44 PM on Jan. 26, 2010

  • thank you so much.

    Answer by Jaxsmommy09 at 6:53 PM on Jan. 26, 2010

  • I'm agree with amileegirl. This is a difficult age, but there are a few things you can do, if you've got realistic expectations. Establish your bedtime routine, minimize activity at night, blackout blinds, green nightlight (if any nightlight, some are worse with them, mine hate them), switch from an infant mattress to a toddler one (it's slightly softer), introduce a lovie. The No Cry Sleep Solution has good stuff. I actually recommend you reading Ferber's book, too, but NOT for the cio. He honestly has some good stuff for sleep routines and patterns. I used some of it with my baby, but we never ever let her cry. I read it to say I had read it. I don't do the crying either, but like I said, he's got some other good gems.

    Answer by whiteroses82 at 7:13 PM on Jan. 26, 2010

  • well honestly you should of been training earlier my 4 month old has been "sleep trained" since 2 1/2 months he gets a bath every other night some food a bottle and is asleep before 9pm every night and sleeps till 5-7am depending on what time he goes to sleep

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:37 PM on Jan. 26, 2010

  • Anony: When your baby reaches a major mile stone, difficult growth spurt, or teething...all that sleep training will go out the window. Sleep patterns change a lot in the first year, particularly because of teething pain. You have been fortunate but wakefullness will happen at some point.

    Answer by amileegirl at 9:02 PM on Jan. 26, 2010

  • Not always amilee - my 14 month old has been sleeping through the night (12 hours) since he was 4-5 months old. He has never woken up from teething pain or a growth spurt. I also have three older children who all are really good sleepers, I believe because I started sleep training early.

    Answer by missanc at 9:20 PM on Jan. 26, 2010

  • So no one in your house EVER wakes to pee or when sick or in pain? Twelve hours is a long time and is unusual. Are you sure they aren't waking (as babies) or have just learned not to call out? Light sleep and waking at least breifly is part of normal sleep behavior for both adults and children. we don't spend the whole night in deep sleep. A lot of people may not recall waking but they wake nonetheless.

    Answer by amileegirl at 11:19 PM on Jan. 26, 2010

  • Here is an article about it by Dr. Sears.  Just something to support what I said about babies sleeping differently and that long stretches of twelve hour sleeps are extremely unusual. -- Facts about sleep -- HIgh needs babies  -- 31 ways to encourage sleep based on baby's needs and personality


    Answer by amileegirl at 11:41 PM on Jan. 26, 2010

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