I am in my fifties and 3 years ago married a man with a 12 yr old son. The kid was troubled and still is troubled. I think if I were you I would date this man until the kid turns 18. I would not get involved on a more committed level until then.
A lot of time, we women think we can fix things. This girl is not yours to fix. If there is a birth mom in the pic, she will resent you and fight you every step of the way if you come on board with the intention of taking on issues.
at 5:49 PM on Jan. 30, 2010