My dh is attending RCIA. He came home last night very upset. He seemed maybe confused about the marrage thing. He told me that he did not think our marrage is valid. I tried to ask him questions and he got mad at me. We were married by a friend of his mom 14 years ago in her home. It was NOT what we wanted but just the same it was what we were able to do considering our familys situation. We have had three children together and I asked him if that means they would be considered born outside of marrage?? He got really mad at me and said "I don't know!" We are going Sat to speak w/our priest. Anything that you know would be helpful. Thanks in advance;)Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 9:58 AM on Jan. 28, 2010 in Religion & Beliefs
im not catholic, but my mom is, i just asked her to read this...she says he most likely feels that your marriage isnt valid because you weren't married in the house of god..my moms family gave her trouble for getting married outside instead of in their catholic church. thats about all should could say about it though..which is probably not much help sorry.
Answer by necro1134 at 10:01 AM on Jan. 28, 2010
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Answer by Anonymous at 10:26 AM on Jan. 28, 2010
It's a legal marriage but not valid. Your children are not bastards. All you have to do is talk to your priest and see about have the marriage blessed. It would involve you living as brother and sister. Going to confession. Then a simple blessing, most times this done after Mass on Sunday. It's really a simple process, not that complicated. My BIL and SIL had this done after being married 20 years. They say it's the best thing they ever did.
Answer by Anonymous at 10:29 AM on Jan. 28, 2010
I'm glad you already have an appointment to talk to a priest since your husband is so upset. You have a legalmarriage that the church recognizes as a legal and binding marriage, it just didn't meet the requirements for marriage sacrament but that has nothing to do with your children.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 10:54 AM on Jan. 28, 2010
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Answer by Kattykitten at 11:05 AM on Jan. 28, 2010
Definately talk to a priest. Catholics are required to be married according to the laws of the Catholic Church in order to be considered "valid" and "sacramental" in the Catholic Church. If neither of you were Catholic when you were married, then the CC assumes your marriage is "valid". If you are Catholic but were married outside of the church and not by a priest (without getting permission beforehand) then your marriage is not a valid Catholic marriage. It is a legal marriage, your children are not illegetimate (since that is a legal term not a religious one). You marriage can be convalidated (sometimes referred to as "blessed") by the church and it would be considered valid.
Answer by eringobrough at 1:13 PM on Jan. 28, 2010