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Why does the child I nanny for repeat the same question?

I nanny for a woman who is a flight attendant (she is gone quite a bit) Her youngest son is 3 and absolutely freaks out whenever she leaves. He'll ask over and over "Come home in X sleeps?" Mom continues to say "Yes yes", but he eventually becomes hysterical and cries uncontrollably despite Mom repetively answering his question. Even when she's home, she'll go upstairs to shower and he'll ask over and over to make sure she's coming back downstairs. And even when she says yes, he still becomes hysteical....
Could this be some form of seperation anxiety? Is there anything I, as the nanny, can do to alleviate the situation? I can't handle the constant crying and Mom getting angry...

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:01 AM on Jan. 28, 2010 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • You could try diversion. Take him out of the situation and get his mind on something else. Some children are more sensitive than others when their parents leave.


    Answer by legalmommy101 at 10:04 AM on Jan. 28, 2010

  • Mom doesn't need to get angry. The child doesn't have the consistency of his mom being there all the time which he so desparately needs. He needs a consistent routine which is why he is feeling insecure about things. Sounds like mom needs to rethink her career choice.

    Answer by lowencope at 10:13 AM on Jan. 28, 2010

  • Why doesnt the child take to you? If he spends alot of time with you he should have bonded with you.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:28 AM on Jan. 28, 2010

  • he may be too young for this, but if he had a calendar and could see a square is a day, and then perhaps mark off each day as it comes or passes. i am pretty sure this would work for a 4 yo, but not sure about a 3yo.

    Answer by happy2bmom25 at 3:44 PM on Jan. 28, 2010

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