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Sex: When is a good time to start talking about it with your children?

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Asked by Cafe Jenn at 3:30 PM on Jan. 28, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • 11-12

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:33 PM on Jan. 28, 2010

  • Younger than 11-12, a lot of kids already know a good bit of info by then, some are even sexually active at that age. Kids learn way too much from other kids and a lot of the info is very wrong. Start young with names of body parts, good touch bad touch. Then work your way up to where babies come from. Then start with the changes their bodies will be going through with puberty. As they age you give more info. Any time they ask something, answer honest and with true info but in a language they can understand if they are younger.. Older kids stress peer-pressure, what boys will say to get "some".. Talk about waiting, respect, love, protection and more than one form of BC.. Stress AIDS, STD's, and pregnancy.. Stress that no matter how "healthy" a person looks doesn't mean they don't have anything.. I started all my kids with the basics at age 3, or when they asked..

    Answer by midnightmoma at 3:43 PM on Jan. 28, 2010

  • as soon as they notice that daddy has a penis, and mommy does not. it is a sequence of small talks that occur through out day to day conversation- not some big spill all event.

    Answer by ObbyDobbie at 3:47 PM on Jan. 28, 2010

  • I think it is an on going conversation that starts when they are tiny and taught proper names for their genitals. You wait until 11-12 they have already learned wrong information from friends most likely.

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:53 PM on Jan. 28, 2010

  • Between 8-10 depending on the kid. We already live in an over-sexed society. There's a good chance that they already know more then you think they do, just from watching TV and stuff they hear at school from their classmates.



    Answer by Anonymous at 4:00 PM on Jan. 28, 2010

  • i agree with obbieDobby. thats how i did it with my son. naming his genitiles, and then giving age apropriate answers when he had questions. the where did babys come from or how did the babies get inti her tummy, started at about 4 when his best buds mother got p.g. with twins.

    Answer by binker55 at 5:27 PM on Jan. 28, 2010

  • When they start asking questions, they should know their body parts at a young age, after that when a child asks it should always get open and honest answers in a way that a child can understand. I do not believe in having the talk at all, sex should be a normal subject and there should be no need for a talk.

    Answer by Cynthje at 6:40 PM on Jan. 28, 2010

  • This should be a series of conversations that start practically at birth, with teaching children the proper names for body parts and their functions.
    You should always be on the lookout for teachable moments: a pregnant relative, a neighbor with puppies, etc.
    Always answer questions when asked; don’t defer, hoping they will be forgotten. You never want a child to feel that she/he can’t come to you with questions.
    Be sure that you are answering the question asked. There is an old joke about the little boy who asked his mother where he came from. She took a deep breath, and gave him a detail description, with illustrations, of how babies were made. Then she asked if he had any questions. He said, thanks Mom, Timmy said that he is from Cleveland.

    Answer by rkoloms at 8:42 AM on Jan. 29, 2010

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