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Mother in law help!!!

Okay my husband's mother has been engaged to this guy for 10 years + she lives in cleveland ohio and i live in martins ferry about 2 1/2 hours away from her. She hasn't done anything but work at her fiancee's office because he owned a carpet cleaning business she answered phones and filled in when the secretary was out. Her fiancee left her the other night and i don't know what to do her only family up in cleveland / brothers and sissters are in and out of jail atleast once a month and her mother is in her 60's and living in an apartment for the elderly. She now has no job, no work experience, no drivers liscense and no money. I don't know what to do with her or what to say to her. She has had 3 surgeries on her stomach and isn't able to get around very well. She has applied for diability before and wasn't able to get it. My husband and i have 1 child and 1 due in 11 weeks and no room in our house for her, the only .... cont

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Asked by Bluesdawg02 at 2:54 AM on Feb. 1, 2010 in Money & Work

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  • thing that i can think of is for her to get disability and move down here near us so she doesn't have to deal with her dead beat family anymore and we can try to get her moved down here but are not able to fiancially able to support her etc... I don't know what else we can do for her besides food stamps and disability, i'm caught between a rock and a hard place. What can i do? She's only 46 years old and she's falling apart and i don't know anything else to do for her. Any positive suggestions would be helpful.
    Thank you for reading, tiffany

    Answer by Bluesdawg02 at 2:57 AM on Feb. 1, 2010

  • Well allowing her to come and stay for a few days so she can figure something else out is helpful. Putting a roof over her head is really all that matters right now, not having room FIND ROOM it's your mother-in-law. I would help her out anyway you could think of. Go and get this women and be there for her is the least you could do. GL to you and her.

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:02 AM on Feb. 1, 2010

  • I'm sorry for so many things going on. Since you're pregnant and due so soon that in itself in work for you carrying baby and caring for another one, call her county of residence which is separate from your own county to find out how to put mil on housing lists. It's actually probably a couple years wait though. So what that her family is in Cleveland, their also her family. Ask husband to do this one to call her relatives and say that she needs a place to live now. If she has to switch relatives for a while oh well. She can also join her local library no matter how often she moves or lives where. They have tons of social groups for women and sometimes men attend but not often.

    Hope things get better!!!!!!!!

    Answer by lfl at 3:04 AM on Feb. 1, 2010

  • Point her towards a social services agency that can help her find the services she needs. She should continue going to work, until she gets fired; otherwise, she will not be able to collect unemployment compensation,.

    Answer by rkoloms at 5:53 AM on Feb. 1, 2010

  • First of all dont even let her believe that she has never done anything. That is BS. You can't live on this planet 46 yr without doing something even if it is just managing the family finances and balancing the checkbook. Don't write off the skills she has just because she hasn't been getting paid for them. Do contact a social services professional who works with agencies and knows the ins and outs. I would think the first things that needs to be tended to are her health and a drivers license. She might be able to live with her mother. Those places usually like you to be 55, but they only throw a fit if you are under 21. She should be able to stay there for a week. She should look into sueing her ex for non-payment of wages. And look up common law marriage in Ohio. You never know what she might be entitled to.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:02 AM on Feb. 1, 2010

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