Everything has a name today and it's usually some kind of a disorder. What your husband is is selfish, and he didn't just get this way since you married him, but you chose to marry him anyway, and now you don't like what you got. Your job as his wife is to help him see his weaknesses and then to help him change. And that is his responsibility to you, as well, but it needs to begin with the wife. So, instead of criticizing his weaknesses, you simply tell him that you see this as an area where you have some strengths that you believe can benefit him, and then you start looking for ways to use your strengths to help him change. And guess what else? You are every bit as selfish as he is, but you for sure don't want me or anybody else saying that. Still it is the truth. Marriage is about working through our selfish motives and helping each other to overcome them. Been doing this with my hubby for 45 years, and it is fun!!!
at 11:12 AM on Feb. 2, 2010