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Spoiled?

My baby is only 1 month old and she wakes up every 10 mintues just to cry...then when you put her over your shoulder and rock her she goes right back to sleep..for another 10 mintues!! Should i be concerned?

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Bri_Beeks

Asked by Bri_Beeks at 1:43 AM on Feb. 4, 2010 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • You can never spoil a baby. Babies cry usually when there is something wrong or if they need something. Are you sure you are feeding her enough? Maybe she needs to be swaddled... change her diaper... she might have tummy/gas pains and needs to be burped... etc. Call er pediatrician to see if she is colicky.


     


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    sonnalynn

    Answer by sonnalynn at 1:54 AM on Feb. 4, 2010

  • wakes up in the middle of the night? If yes, you should try playing some music. They sell baby lullabies that are very soothing or nature sounds. Also, vibration is very good. My son's pack n play had a built in vibration thing attached to the bassinet part so i would turn it on and he'd pass out in like 2 min. If you don't have anything like that, you should definitely try to limit the amount of time you hold her during the day...lay her on the floor and talk to her vs holding her. Even if you just cut back a few minuets at a time and gradually hold her less and less she'll learn how to self sooth. And i'm not saying, let her scream her head off while you're in the other room...but talk to her when she gets fussy and starts grunting and see how long it takes for her to really need to be held. the best times to do this are after a good feeding and a clean diaper..then you know nothing is wrong.
    Parkers_Mommy8

    Answer by Parkers_Mommy8 at 1:58 AM on Feb. 4, 2010

  • Newborns need to feel secure like in the womb. She probably likes being on your shoulder because she can hear your heartbeat. Try swaddling, heartbeat sounds, vibration or swing.....Also babies like to be close to mom at first and "wearing" your baby helps.

    Google "Moby wrap." It's expensive, but well worth it. Best carrier to me.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:11 AM on Feb. 4, 2010

  • Omg thanks guys i put on the vibration/music on her bassinet and she went right to sleep..i didnt even put batteries in it i didnt think it really worked lol and by swaddle what exactly does that mean(sorry kinda young)
    Bri_Beeks

    Answer by Bri_Beeks at 2:18 AM on Feb. 4, 2010

  • Swaddle means tying the baby up in a blanket so her arms and legs can't move. She then feels like she's being hugged all the time.
    Ewadun

    Answer by Ewadun at 2:59 AM on Feb. 4, 2010

  • You spoil a child by buying them whatever they want and not teaching them responsibility. You do not spoil a child with unconditional love or by meeting their needs. Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves is a wonderful parenting book www.naomialdort.com

    rkoloms

    Answer by rkoloms at 6:10 AM on Feb. 4, 2010

  • Ditto to the above. Also if you put her down make sure she is in deep sleep. look for limp limbs, relaxed face and steady breathing. If you put her down in light sleep she will awaken and call for you. Remember to her the world is vast and scary. you are the life preserver. Definitly invest in a wrap or baby carrier.
    amileegirl

    Answer by amileegirl at 8:50 AM on Feb. 4, 2010


  • You spoil a child by buying them whatever they want and not teaching them responsibility. You do not spoil a child with unconditional love or by meeting their needs. Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves is a wonderful parenting book www.naomialdort.com




    STRONGLY agree. Actually, my "thought bubble" says, you can only spoil a child with things, not with love, or something similar.
    Krysta622

    Answer by Krysta622 at 9:39 AM on Feb. 4, 2010

  • NOT spoiled. She just came out of a warm cozy womb and into a cold brightly lit world. She's scared. She was always hearing your heartbeat and now she thinks you are gone. She will settle down and adjust. Just be patient
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 10:02 AM on Feb. 4, 2010

  • At one month no. Could be a growth spurt and she wants more food. Could just be missing the sounds/feel of the womb. Try a heartbeat teddy bear or a vibration chair. Maybe try making sure she's swaddled nice and tight (she may or may not like her hands/arms swaddled, though). Could be getting sick and just want you to hold her a bit more.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:37 AM on Feb. 4, 2010

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