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sure this may have been asked somewhere? what do u say to DH (as a SAHM) when he says stuff about making the money for the family...

i understand he works hard. i work hard to. i just dont get paid for it. the other night i just wanted some "family time" it was 8:00 and he was still on his phone doing emails and texting.... i know he needs to work - but hes the owner and the boss and he can make family time if he wants to. i think after 7 or something he should shut off work mode. he doesnt HAVE to respond right away.. it CAN wait til the a.m. Everyone knows he has kids! and he said to me "well i pay the bills...." or something... UGH! (seriously?!? i have only been off work a week!!!) what do you say or do? i have helped with all the bills forever!! i JUST started staying home bc i am on maternity! (and will be SAHM from here on out) but i dont want it to be like that with him....

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Asked by Anonymous at 8:39 AM on Feb. 4, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Um Seriously... if you want to help, you need to get a job. Being a SAHM is great and all, but it simply DOES NOT pay the bills. Your dear husband, obviously needs some help. He is working too long and hard... you need to help with the finances. This SAHM stuff is just starting to sound like a lot of lazy women who don't want to work. Honey, some of us worked full time, and did our full time duties at home. If you want to keep your husband, Sweetie, you have to help him out by working.

    and so it goes....

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:54 AM on Feb. 4, 2010

  • Well sometimes hubbys can say mean things like that, but you just have to let it roll off your shoulder. Let him have his say, and walk away respecting that he is carrying a bigger load of responsibilities. Men always have a hard time dealing with change, especially a big one like that. Not to mention the fact that you have a new baby. Just remember who takes care of home and makes the house a comfortable habitat. It sucks but hang in there, b/c it gets better.


    Answer by sugahmamma at 8:56 AM on Feb. 4, 2010

  • As to the COWARDLY ANON - dont listen to that BULLSHIT. You talk the talk when you walk the walk.

    Answer by sugahmamma at 8:59 AM on Feb. 4, 2010

  • to anon 8:54: life would really be great and easy if everything was really that simple wouldn't it?


    Answer by Anonymous at 9:22 AM on Feb. 4, 2010

  • I'd thank him and hug his neck. Anything other than that is a waste of your time and energy. He's not going to listen to how hard you work bc he's fishing for you to say something nice to him, to show him appreciation. Yes I know he should do it for you as well but he's crying out for attention like some small child. I say just give him some kudos then go in the other room and laugh at him

    Answer by admckenzie at 10:12 AM on Feb. 4, 2010

  • It would NOT be okay for my husband to say things like that to me. If you made the choice together he needs to respect the fact that you are home to raise the child you had TOGETHER.

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:35 AM on Feb. 5, 2010

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