I have two children with my EXH. When we were together we agreed I would BF our daughter (who was our only one at that time) until either she weaned her self or until he started kindergarten. Well he left shortly after the birth of our second daughter, when our oldest was almost two. EOWend visitations. His STBWife has posted many things on Cafemom and various other sites bashing me, bashing me to my exinlaws (who I did have a good relationship with until last month) all because I BF both of my daughters (33 mo's and 10mo's) My ex had only approached me once and asked when I was going to wean our oldest.
Asked by Anonymous at 8:43 AM on Feb. 4, 2010 in General Parenting
Answer by Anonymous at 8:48 AM on Feb. 4, 2010
Answer by lfl at 8:50 AM on Feb. 4, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 8:52 AM on Feb. 4, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 8:53 AM on Feb. 4, 2010
That is none of there business. I would say she really crossed the line with cutting your DD hair. That really is not her place. Try to ignore them and do what you feel is best. I mean I assume that they eat a balanced meals and drinking other things. And their teeth are fine, so who cares how long you go. I went 18 months and 20 months with my two, you do what you feel is right.
Answer by DevilInPigtails at 8:54 AM on Feb. 4, 2010
Answer by lfl at 8:55 AM on Feb. 4, 2010
what kinds of things did she say about you- she may be frustrated too. the hair cutting this does sound pretty nuts, but maybe she didn't know any better. The hair will grow back. I'm not saying you shouldn't be upset, I'd be irate. as far as "sending her home filthy" - did you ask her why? has this woman actually called you a terrible mom? Does your daughter want to call her mom? could have been girls idea. Either way, maybe she does care about the kids but isn't sure how to go about it. Perhaps this woman is just inexperienced. I'd see about some family counseling. This woman is part of your kids life and maybe some of the energy you both use being mad at each other could go to trying to create a joint family. have a similar situation-Little girl likes to call bio mom mommy and me mom-totally her idea.Seemed like I couldn't do anything right and years later I still don't know what her mommy wants.
Answer by Anonymous at 9:12 AM on Feb. 4, 2010
Is there any kind of court/custody order in place? You might want to amend it to specify that no changes to appearance may be made without mom AND dad's consent (i.e. hair cutting, ear piercing....). Otherwise, talk to EXH about this, and also document all things such as sending home filthy etc. Don't worry about the BF, that's between child and mom. Your child should be old enough to understand that BF is private now, and just let her know not to discuss with SM or dad unless specifically asked, and nursing is only at home.
Answer by Krysta622 at 9:45 AM on Feb. 4, 2010
Answer by Krysta622 at 9:46 AM on Feb. 4, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 10:52 AM on Feb. 4, 2010