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Who had an abortion and truly regreted it?

Do you have remorse? Do you wish you hadn't done it?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 3:02 PM on Feb. 5, 2010 in Pregnancy

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  • no, bc the father was a jack ass, and i will not have another one of him be born.. hell no.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:13 PM on Feb. 5, 2010

  • pero u knew wat u were doing.................. its not ur babys fault u shouldnt had done anything with him............ my man went to prison i got drunk 1 day he had been there like a yr and i got drunk and 2 wks later i found out i was prego. my mans mom tld me get an abortion and dnt tell him but i couldnt i didnt hav e the heart....... it crossd my mind so many times but i couldnt the guy i am currently prego from bounced and says it aint his... that killd me not only did i lose my bf which is also my 1st bby daddy now im prego from a guy thats an asshole..... im only 21 and wrk a full time job my other son is only 23 mnths and i dnt get any help from his daddy so im stuck but i still couldnt get an abortion.. i knew wat i was doing from the moment i opend my legs.... i just think we shouldnt be so stupid............. y not just have a bby and suffer but try ur hardest then jkill the bby and u suffer later
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:21 PM on Feb. 5, 2010

  • I had one at nineteen. It was absolutely the right decision. I never regretted it. When I got pregant a second time, at 35, the counselor at Planned Parenhood sort of talked me out of an abortion; also the right decision and one I have never regretted.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:22 PM on Feb. 5, 2010

  • I regret it. I was forced into it at age 16 by my 19yo controlling abusive boyfriend. I wish I had kept our baby sometimes...but then again, if I had...I wouldn't have my two beautiful kids I have now...a 2yo and an 8mo...they are my life...and this is the way I look at it...to a certain extent, yes, I regret having the abortion, and wish it could have gone another way...but then again...every choice, and every mistake I have ever made, has led me to where I am today....I've got two beautiful kids, an amazing fiance, and a wonderful life. And if I hadn't made any of those mistakes, including the abortion... then I may not have all the things I have today, and I sure wouldn't be the person I am today. I couldn't have given that child everything they deserved...and I certainly couldn't bare giving it up for adoption....so I guess it all worked out for the best...
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:26 PM on Feb. 5, 2010

  • I hate how everyone says things like "people should suffer the consequences of having unprotected sex.." Like getting pregnant and having a child is such a bad thing. Yes, if you're young...it's not particularly easy and fun...but having or not having a child isn't a punishment....it's a gift.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:27 PM on Feb. 5, 2010

  • I had one when I was 16 by my boyfriend! We dated for 4 years & after I broke up with him, he went tp prison for selling drugs. I didn't even know it! I also found out later that he was sleeping with several women behind my back & he did give me an STD. I can't imagine raising a child with someone like that.So, no I do not regret it because I went on to finish high school, get two college degrees & meet my soul mate that I now have a DD by!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:42 PM on Feb. 5, 2010

  • I had 3. I don't regret them. I was too young and wouldnt have been a good mom at the time.

    I love my son.. and wouldnt want my life any other way.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:51 PM on Feb. 5, 2010

  • I hate how everyone says things like "people should suffer the consequences of having unprotected sex.." Like getting pregnant and having a child is such a bad thing. Yes, if you're young...it's not particularly easy and fun...but having or not having a child isn't a punishment....it's a gift.

    This exactly. I have rarely heard something that sounds as stupid as "you knew you were taking that chance when you had sex". Children are not consequences for bad behavior.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:58 PM on Feb. 5, 2010

  • so I have decided to post this using my profile instead of anonymous bc I think every one should stand behind their opinion, not hide from it.

    Children are a gift from God. It is not anyone's right to take a life, no matter how small. killing (and yes, it is killing!) an unborn child is not any different than killing an adult. You should never punish the child b/c you made a bad decision. There are a lot of people that are unable to have kids that would make great loving parents who would love to adopt a baby to raise.

    But I guess it is just easier to "get rid of the situation" then deal with it.
    stacyfru

    Answer by stacyfru at 4:51 PM on Feb. 5, 2010

  • so I have decided to post this using my profile instead of anonymous bc I think every one should stand behind their opinion, not hide from it.

    Children are a gift from God. It is not anyone's right to take a life, no matter how small. killing (and yes, it is killing!) an unborn child is not any different than killing an adult. You should never punish the child b/c you made a bad decision. There are a lot of people that are unable to have kids that would make great loving parents who would love to adopt a baby to raise.

    But I guess it is just easier to "get rid of the situation" then deal with it.

    thanks for sharing.. but that isnt what the post was about.. why did you feel it necessary?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:21 PM on Feb. 5, 2010

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